Ever since the start of our relationship, I've enjoyed playing games with him, which I know I shouldn't:
1. I took ages to respond to his messages
2. Never really complimented him or stroke his ego.
3. Rarely reply back to his "I love yous"
4. Never text him back when he texts me good night and good morning.
5. Read his messages and questions, but never respond for days.
6. Pretended to block him once and he started panicking.
7. Spoke about how attractive other guys are and how attractive my exes are.
8. Kept picking up fights and making break up threats, to which he pleaded me not to.
9. Didn't really flirt back.
Now he thinks I don't love him the same way he loves me and he is upset and insecure, I feel really bad because I thought being mysterious and playing hard to get worked. Now I feel that I have hurt him. He doesn't believe me when I told him how much I love him, What should I do to show him I love him so much? He is really attractive, chivalrous, polite, sweet, caring, protective (he said he would protect me with all his life) kind and very loving. Although I've spoken about hot guys (and he was really jealous every time), he said he only has eyes for me and I'm the prettiest, most intelligent and amazing girl he has ever met. He never talked about other women. I feel so guilty, what to do?
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You shouldn't have gotten into a relationship in the first place, considering how immature you are and incapable of understanding how hurtful your behaviour was without him actually voicing that.
Where did you get all this idiotic advice from? Has it ever crossed your mind to consider how YOU would feel had he been using exactly the same tactics thinking it would make him seem "mysterious"? Putting yourself in someone else's shoes should be the first guide on how you treat people around you. If you wouldn't like it, what makes you think others will?
He won't believe you and rightfully so. You acted completely disinterested, what did you expect?
Do you want to mend the relationship? Tell him exactly what you wrote here. That you got a stupid idea from somewhere that it would make the relationship more interesting and didn't realize how your actions were affecting him and TRUTHFULLY APOLOGIZE.
Don't try covering your ass by just being nice from now on. Accept your mistake, come clean and tell him it was very immature of you and you now understand that it was a terrible thing to do and that you're truly sorry.
The correct foundation for a healthy relationship is honesty and the ability to humbly accept one's mistakes in order to avoid repeating them.8