I am 20 years old and it just seems like guys only want the girls who are "easy" to get in bed and thats just not me. I want to have sex, but when I feel like the time is right and not just with a random person. I want to have sex a couple months into a relationship when I feel comfortable with that perosn and he respects me. I've been burned by all of the guys that have showed interest in me because they wanted to sleep with me so early. I am scared that I will be like 25 and never have had sex and that scares me because I dont want to wait til marriage or anything like that. I dont want a guy to think that is weird because in your ate 20s I would conisder that to be weird. I am a very confident girl and im really outgoing, so it doesn't usually bother me, but its just because a lot of people expect you to already be experienced in that area and i just am not. Any advice?
There are men out there asking that same exact question, wanting exactly what you want. Wait until you find the right one.
If it's any consolation, I respected my girlfriend at the time more because she was a virgin. I have nothing against women who aren't. However, wanting to wait for the right person speaks volumes to your character.
Don't worry about it. Wait until you find someone and if they're the right person, they won't care. I was a virgin until 20, and if I hadn't met my boyfriend, I probably still would be a virgin. there's nothing wrong with it. There are also more virgins in college than you think.
Good on you. Hold on to your core values. Waiting to share your first experience of sex with the right guy is so important it will have a huge bearing on the rest of your sex life. Give you confidence and make it all that more enjoyable.
Well, relationships are mutually established when both people see it as beneficial, because they both want to be in a relationship. (Both parties are attracted to one another and don't think the other party is incompatible with them).
You have to get to know people, establish a relationship, then have sex when it seems like the reasonable thing to do. No one is hurrying you, it's not a competition.
Don't worry at all, your my kind of girl for sure! I love it when a girl waits for the right person, i am waiting for the right girl for the same reasons. Not having had many partners in bed is a plus for me and plenty of other guys like me.
So don't worry, the guys that want you to be easy are only out for the sex anyway. Guys that genuinely care about you won't see this as a problem at all!
Don't waste another minute of your time worrying about it. You should have sex when you are ready, with a guy you feel comfortable with. That's that. The fact that you are committed to this and have the conviction to see it through is very attractive and dare I say... even sexy. Someone out there is a lucky guy.
All the feelings you have are totally normal but it's still better than having regrets over the first person you do it with. Don't worry, it'll happen when your ready. The right guy will want to wait till you are ready too.
It's not that weird, it's totally okey to wait the right person. You are making the right choice..
I'm 21 and a virgin. I know how you feel as a feel the same!! I asked a similar question on here and the positive replies have made me feel better, more confident and proud even. Hope the same will happen for you with this question. Never the less, I'm still going to look for that right person and hope he comes along soon!
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