I think most people will have heard the theory that girls 'love jerks' and 'hate nice guys' either on GaG or elsewhere online. This has led plenty of guys to ask if they need to treat women worse (or to just be more selfish) to become attractive. When I see people respond, most girls seem to dismiss it as crazy while most guys seem to think there's something to that theory.
So how nice is 'too nice' when it comes to guys' treatment of women they are attracted to? Does chivalry make a man unattractive and should men act more 'modern' (e. g. hook-up culture)?
Most Helpful Girl
Ok, to be completely honest this varies from one woman to the next as does everything. To illustrate:
When men get mad they generally either go quiet and distance themselves or get verbally angry or have a temper or anywhere in between on a sliding scale.
I grew up in a house where my dad had a temper. Being 8 and having a grown man in my face screaming was pretty scary. I'm a full grown adult and am pretty unphased by a man with a temper. I can handle it. I'm used to it. If a man goes quiet it is scary as hell because I don't know where his head is at! I know women who are the complete opposite and feel disrespected when a man yells but could care less if he went quiet out of anger.
Some women are attracted to the "muscular type." Some like the "cute" guys, some like chubby, etc. It varies
My bff hates it when a man puts her on a pedestal and opens doors and is chivalrous because sheet feels like it is pressuring her to be perfect to live up to being on the pedestal. I've had a bit of a rough past with a bad marriage where I got stuck doing everything and when my boyfriend opens doors or gets the stroller out of my car while I get my daughter or helps me out by putting my food in the to go box while I tend to my past tired daughter, I feel like he is there for me and I'm not alone. I feel like he is "with me." And after what I went through it is a HUGE turn on to feel like that.
I think the biggest thing is to be yourself instead of trying to be what you thin in a woman wants because frankly--we all value different things.1
Most Helpful Guy
I simply treat someone how I would want to be treated if I were in their position and also based upon how they treat me.
My life is pretty ruled by these two phrases in this regard.
An eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth a life for a life.
Do unto others as you would do unto yourself.1