You are at different points in your life. I wouldn't consider an age gap unless we are at the same point in our lives. Because if he wants to start a family and you are still studying, it isen't ideal or fair on both of you.
I know hundreds and hundreds of married couples, mb even a thousand.
In the VAST majority of the best-functioning couples -- where "best-functioning" includes sexuality, logistics, emotional compatibility, finances, and just big life decisions in general -- the husband is 5 to 12 years older than the wife. Like, at least 97 percent of the best-functioning couples.
A 9-year age difference seems big now, but it will seem smaller and smaller as time goes on.
Honestly, if you get together with someone that age, and the two of you are still together just 1-2 years from now, you'll probably have forgotten all about the age difference -- unless some conversation comes up in which it's specifically a relevant issue (e. g. timing of having children). Otherwise, literally, you will just forget that the difference even exists.
(Until he asks whether you remember something that happened years before you were born, and then you can have a good laugh together.)
There is no general rule. If you're comfortable with them, it's good. Now there are some things to consider: - Is he in a different place in his life so there's built in conflict possibly. An example is a 40s man dating a 20s woman. He's probably already had children and may not want any more whereas she does eventually. He's focused on his career and building retirement savings and she's ready to party. You see what I mean? - If he's getting into his senior years where he may start to lose sexual function while her libido is on the way up. Not all men lose it but to do that they have to use it.
That's funny I just read that you should be in a range not more then half your age plus seven... so if that is accurate you are with in the acceptable range but like you said there are exceptions to every rule and what is important is that you are comfortable with the other person.
My grandfather remarried a woman back in the 1980's that was almost 20 years his younger. My other grandparents where 17 years apart. My ex-wife was 4 years older than I am. I think it depends on the individuals.
Sometimes I think "age is just a number". When I was a freshman in highschool I was dating a senior. That gap seems small, but it was big back then. 😂 I don't think it should really matter. As long as you both truly care for each other. Or are both interested in each other. But even as I say that. And truly stand by what I say, I can't help but cringe when I see a 50 year old with someone younger than their children. Man or woman. Maybe society has just trained me that way. But age really shouldn't matter as long as the relationship works.
My parents have a 9 year age gap and I think they are fine. There is nothing wrong with this gap. I know it seems like a large gap at your age but it really isn't. My parents were married with their first child when the youngest of the two was 21.
I also am friends with a 17 year old who has a 28 year old boy friend I don't think there is anything wrong with age gaps as long as both partners are happy in the relationship and feel equals.
To me it really just depends! To me 18 and 27 is a huge gap and a difference as opposed to being 21 and dating a 28 year old, you two have a totally different mind set and maturity level. And another thing, it's also very common that a 27 year old guy would play or use an 18 year old girl for sex, and not be interested in any real relationship.
If both parties are of age and you have common interests and all that... who cares what the age difference is. Its just a number. My boyfriend now is 9 Yeats older than me. My previous one 14 years. No big.
I wouldn't mind a 20 y gap, but then again I'm all about 'em older men.
It depends on the person. I used to date a guy who was 10 years younger and never felt the age difference mainly because I like younger guys. With that in mind, I would never date a guy who's 10 years older but that's just me.
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