What do you girls think of intellectual men as potential partners? I mean men who are well-read, interested in ideas, perhaps writers or artists or scientists, who like discussing and debating abstract matters, etc.
Intellectual men are intriguing and keep my attention
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Intellectual men are boring and I don't want to date one
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Intellectual men are pedants and put me off
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Intellectual men are sexy because of their intellect
Honestly it depends. Some intelligent guys can be painfully arrogant and egotistical, making their only selling point correcting others and talking about deeply intellectual topics. That can quickly become repulsive. However, being a smart person in of itself isn't unattractive; it can be attractive so long as you yourself are an endearing person with more, enjoyable qualities to offer. In general, I expect the men I date to have at least common sense, so I wouldn't be turned off by a smart man with a good personality who wasn't an egoist.
ever since i was a kid, i've had to "dumb down" my vocabulary so that people my own age would understand me, but i got so sick of feeling like a teacher trying to browbeat her fidgety students.
i wanted an intellectual equal- someone to share my passions and my big ideas with- and i found him in my other half. i love that i can use "big" words in conversation with him and don't have to explain myself.
that said... if someone is "intellectual" only in the academic sense (read: someone who's university-educated and can spew off facts from a textbook but doesn't have any opinions of his own) then it's pretentious and a huge turn-off.
I wouldn't want to be with a guy who's not an 'intellectual'. Sex is great, don't get me wrong. But the relationship woudl be doomed from the start if we wouldn't be able to have decent, non-superficial conversations once in a while.
My ultimate combo is a guy who has me not only dick-whipped, but manages to challenge me intellectually as well. 👌
It really depends on the guy. If he was also able to hold a conversation and seemed to be nice guy then ya, I'd love an intellectual man. Being smart, is attractive. Though, if the guy was not able to hold a concersation or else egocentric, then no, I'd be turned off.
Intelligence means everything in a relationship. Stupid people make stupid decisions resulting in stupid relationships stupid children and stupid divorce. I will not date someone with intelligence I question. It's a matter of fact without a doubt I can say I dislike stupid people