I'm very nearly 18 and lately I've been talking to this guy who's almost exactly 10 years older than me. We've been friends for a while but lately our conversations have gotten significantly flirtier. He's a really good guy and I like him quite a bit. Is 10 years too big of an age difference? I mean, my parents were almost 20 years apart but they were older when they met. Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
At your age, eh... Not terrible. He is only 28. The older you get the better the difference gets. My wife was 17 when I met her, I was 23. The only issue I had was, I was done school and had a career, she still needed to finish high school and college and then get a career going. This sorta stalled out my plans as a adult as I waited for her to become established. I would not do that again. If I could do it over I would rather go after someone my age who also has a career going. This is obviously from the guy's perspective, but from your perspective you are actually better off. Since your would-be boyfriend is already done school and working he should be already established in a career/working and making good money by now. So from your perspective it is nice to have a boyfriend who is making money. The only real problem is timing for a family. If you want a career, basically you could be looking at another 10 years before you are ready to have babies. That puts him closer to 40. He may want a family very soon which may put a lot of pressure on you at a very young age and perhaps before you are ready. I know one step at a time, but it is something to ponder. Also, like I said, he should be working and have a career at 28. If he doesn't work, or has some bullshit part-time minimum wage job then like it or not, he is a loser and you should avoid him. He is hitting on you because the girls his age know he is a loser and won't date him, that is why he is hitting on the younger girls. Be careful! Love doesn't pay the bills!4
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Most Helpful Girl
The parents will weigh you down if you tell them and friends will either be indifferent or give fake smiles. Real friends will try to grasp it but will wonder why you find older men attractive. I constantly got the "why aren't you dating" because i made the decision (not) to tell any family until i was eighteen. I told close friends but mostly kept to myself. At 18 if family wouldn't except it and give me my privacy without jedgement id agree to disagree go on my way and leave. Follow my goals, life convictions, and sought out my boyfriend in the process.0