I'm 21. I consider myself "girlfriend" material, as does almost everyone around me.. I'm not sure what the characteristics are but I'm selective sexually (I've only had 2 sex partners); When I like a guy, it's only him; I have a nice curvy body and a unique and attractive face and hair, I study psych at college at a well-acclaimed school, I am one of the nicest people you could meet, I'm funny, I'm street smart, artistic... But I don't know, I met this guy and basically all I am to him is a piece of ass, and i see these dumb memes online about "girlfriend vs a dudes side hoe" and now I feel like I'm the category of hoe, even though I don't carry myself that way or sleep around; yet, for him, I would do anything. I'm like in love with this guy and he just wants to play the game or maybe I'm just not girlfriend material?
Most Helpful Guy
100% depends on the guy. For some guys being good in bed is it. For others it's like a how much stuff can you do for me kinda deal. For other guys simply not abandoning them will do. For other guys (like me unfortunately) there's absolutely nothing you can actively do to make yourself appear as relationship material and it's more just about whether or not he can get over his emotional hang ups about long term relationships. All dudes are different. But in my opinion no girl is girlfriend material. It's not an intrinsic property of a girl it's more about the exchange between you and him. What he desires and what you provide and vice versa. It's all a big game of trial and error3
Most Helpful Girl
It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with what he's looking for. It may be that he's not looking for any kind of girlfriend so all he sees anyone as is hookups. Or it's that you aren't a match for what he wants in a girlfriend. I'm sure there were guys you thought were hot but would not have wanted to date. It might be that way for him.
Regardless of his reasons, if he doesn't have what you are looking for (interest in having a relationship with you) then you need to move on. There will be other people who will want you to be their girlfriend and whom you will be interested in as well. Don't waste your time bemoaning why one dude happens to not be the right fit for you.1