Personally I've gotten so exhausted by this whole debate that I just started doing whatever I felt like. Sometimes I'll buy her food just cause and if she objects fine. If I don't feel like paying I just won't. If she wants to pay for it all I'm not going to argue. I just don't care anymore. People gotta eat. The only rule I have is if a girl balls out and spends a crap ton by like buying the most expensive thing on the menu and some wine and a dessert and everything and I'm not already in a pretty deep relationship with her I have zero problem paying for myself and letting her sort out the rest. I feel like I was born into a generation where women can just as easily find a job and pay for their own lifestyles so I treat them like I would anyone else. I'll pay when I feel like being nice and if anyone has a problem with that and decides to judge me for not being "gentlemanly" enough that's fine. I'm not a fan of shallow gestures of love so I have no problem pretty much ignoring this weird socially conditioned behavior and any girl who's got a problem with that isn't going to have to great of a relationship with me anyways.
We get the bill. The guy hands the bill. I ask if he needs me to pay my half, he says no and pays. I thank him and tell him how sweet he is and how much I appreciate it!
In an exclusive relationship, I think you should have each other's backs. Generally if my guy has the money he wants to buy and I enjoy being spoiled and get in a really good mood. I still always thank and say how much I enjoyed my time with him, etc. However, if I know some unexpected expenses came up or a lot came out of a pay check, or whatever the case may be, then I will pick up the tab. Or if we have a lot planned that weekend I will chip in for SOMETHING at least. In a relationship you have each other's back.
For first date kind of situations I believe the guy should pay but as a sign of courtesy, much like opening the door for someone. I find it to be gentlemanlike and classy to offer as a way of saying "thank you for the date." It doesn't mean anything more or less than that. She doesn't owe me anything-- I just would be trying to be nice.
I don't particularly care about the PC way of splitting the bill no matter what to show equality. I am making my own choice to pay because I WANT to.
However, a guy isn't obligated to pay. If the girl is obnoxious and rude, I would not pay the bill by myself. I wouldn't show courtesy to someone who refused to show me any.
Likewise, if the girl personally wants to split the bill and feels uncomfortable with me taking it, I'm alright with that. I would throw out the offer to pay, but I wouldn't force it. If she wants to pay, then so be it.
Also, if we started going on quite a bit of dates, I wouldn't want to be paying for each one all the time... Like if we were officially dating and not just testing the waters so-to-speak. I'd want to split the bill or take turns paying at that point.
So I guess I'd fall into choice F. The guy shouldn't "always" pay, but I do find it nice to offer to pay for a certain time period.
The person who ask is the one who pays. Unless it's something of a 1st date and I like her enough then I would offer to pay because I'm old school. However, I wouldn't get too hung up on insisting it if the other party wants to split.
I don't really like having someone ask me out then she eats a huge steak with dessert and wine while I munch on pasta and expects me to split 50/50. Unless she's hot and I want to get into her pants, then I will probably treat her. Otherwise, I won't be having any meals with that person unless I really have to.
Well if I asked her out to dinner I would then pay the whole shot.. but even if she was the one that asked me out I would still offer to pay some of the bill or more.. this would not in any way mean I want something back in return.. it is just I consider myself a nice guy always.. and when with I am the ladies I just love their company and it would only be a friendly thing do do on my part and if it did lead to some fun after wards.. well that would be a bonus.. but like I stated I would not want or expect anything in return
Well I believe that the first date should be simply who ever can cover it without it taking up too much of their monthly budget. Cause paying the bill isn't a transaction that involves wether your male or female. Plus it shows that the female in the relationship is mature and not just leeching off of the guy in the relationship. I mean its kinda crucial that the guy doesn't get the sense he's getting played.
What's the point on going on a date? Talking, chatting, having a good time and exchanging opinions and experiences. enjoying the other person's company, not eating. You can pay for yourself, as I didn't take you out to pay for your food, I took you out to get a piece of your mind and get to know you.
I don't mind taking a lady for dinner and paying. A man's supposed to look after a woman. There's nothing wrong with that. Your taking her under your wing not the other way around. These aren't gender roles, it's nature. It flatters a man's characteristics to take the lead and flatters a woman's to be led. It's how we're designed. If nature intended us to be equal we'd look the same. Why fight nature? I'm talking proper men and proper women here and before any idiot says it. There is such a thing
Whoever asked out the other to dinner. It's incredibly rude to ask someone out to dinner and then expect them to pay. However if a girl did ask me out to dinner I'd be perfectly okay with paying my half. If they asked me out and then wanted me to foot the whole bill simply because they didn't want to pay that's probably going to be our last date...
Girls like dominant guys. Start by being dominant at the dinner table by paying. You pick the restaurant, you select the wine, you pay the bill without a flinch. Open her door to the car, smile, be nice and maybe you will get some, at least eventually.
50/50 until either party feels they want to treat the other. If a guy is obligated to pay the first time, then we are as a society saying women's time is more valuable then man's. If I like a girl I will probably pay to show her I care. I guess it depends on the context of the date. If 2 best friends start dating I would pay because I love her already. If it is a first time meet off a dating site I think the above thing I said applies.
I think anything less than splitting or offering to pay is selfish and unacceptable. If you're expecting your date to pay for you, whether you're a guy or a girl, and they don't make a fuck ton more money than you then you are an ASSHOLE.
Everybody should pay for what they're having. I'm not gonna pay for my dinner date's steak with a jacket potato & chicken skewer side aka $40 if I only have a salad myself aka $8 lmao Not. Happening. 💁🏻
Split it 50/50... takes all the awkwardness out of the whole deal. If my date absolutely insisted on paying for dinner, I would make it a point to pay for something else in the evening (movie tickets, first round at the bar, or something...).
50/50 is always best. People get to pay for their own damn meal and there's no extra pressure for getting money involved. I went on a date with a guy a few days ago, he paid for my movie ticket because we weren't able to pay separately. Made me feel bad so today I'm going to buy him a bracelet and give it to him the next time I see him, as thanks.
First date whoever asks should pay. After that should take turns. However if one person makes significantly more money and wants to go out somewhere expensive they should foot the bill as it would be unfair for them to expect the other person to.
Depends on the people involved. I always pay for my own stuff. If it's someone's birthday or if I ask them out on a date when they're feeling like shit then I'll pay for both. If people want to split it 50/50 or have the guy or female pay then it's up to them. Whatever works for the individuals. There's no absolute rule.
My boyfriend doesn't mind paying for evertyhing. He goes up and pays without me asking or anything. I think the person who did the inviting should pay unless the other person says otherwise. I sometimes like to pay for somethings when I have money (im broke 90% of the time lol) so that he won't feel like he is being taken advantage of or so that I don't feel like I owe him in any way.