I saw a question on GAG about payments on Dating, in which not even a single girl replied that a girl should/can pay, however many of them said 50/50 but interestingly 10 girls said guy should pay which infers a likelihood that society tends to expect that a guy should pay while thinking of gender equality at the same time. i was just getitng curious how it looks form girl's point of view if she had to pay for a guy. So girls! how would u feel in such situation where u are paying for a guy? will u keep doing it on regular basis? or once in a blue moon? what do u think of such guy? a less man? (Please ignore grammatical mistakes if there are any, as English is not my native language)
Nah, Why should i pay for a GUY? is he not a Man enough to pay his own bills?
In my relationship I usually pay when we go out because my boyfriend doesn't have time for a job on top of all his college classes. I don't mind because I would rather him save what money he has for school or food related things, but he still treats me every now and again when he can even if I tell him he doesn't have to.
This is a good point. I never understood why women fight to have equal income, but at the same time women almost always expect the guy to pay. Me personally, I'm financially off... so I always pay. I do like to pick apart certain norms though, and this is a good one. How would women feel if they were the ones expected to pay a mass majority of the time, as guys are expected to do.
It's been four years of a relationship, we've gotten to the point where sometimes I'll pay for him when we go out :P Usually we split it 50/50, but if he pays for me, then the next time I'll pay for him to even us out. It doesn't make him any less of a man to me.
I think it's only fair to take turns paying, but if a guy asked ME out and then expected me to pay I'd be pissed. You don't invite someone to dinner and then tell them to pay for your meal. If I asked HIM out I would offer to pay because I make the invitation.
I've always been more comfortable paying than being paid for. More often than my not my ex and I used to split the bill, although sometimes I'd really want to pay, and sometimes he would. so we'd often end up taking it in turns.
It is situational. I have traditional values in general though. I take no offense at someone saying a woman's place is in the kitchen, for example, because honestly I feel most full filled in those supporting roles. But times have changed and I also work full time and I accept I probably always will.
I paid for a few dates upfront with my current boyfriend and I didn't mind because he was honest about some stuff--like why he couldn't pay. Above traditional values, I think in a relationship the couple is a team and should have each other's back. (But in spite of all the gender equality stuff, I think most people deep down get a sense of fulfillment from traditional roles where possible)
Look here is how I see it: if a guy asks me out to dinner I'm expecting he will pay for it, but if I ask him then I'm going to pay for it. I also don't mind doing the 50/50 thing either I think that's ok. After you've been dating for a while it tends to be one person will pay for this night the other will pay for the next. Or you split it. For example if you were dating someone and went to the movies; one would get the tickets the other would get the snacks. Something like that.
Personally i rather we each pay for our own stuff, or if it was a reoccuring thing, then i pay, then he pay, then i pay and so on. Just because i don't like oweing people, and i feel like i do if they pay, i actually rather pay for the both of us, than for the guy to pay ha.