How scary is it to fall in love after a 20 year marriage divorce? Sexless for years. What goes on in your head? How does it feel like to get that first gift like flowers or candy after having not getting one in years? Has anyone ever fought falling back in love with someone new and what made you decide to give love another chance? Have you ever gotten so scared you ran away? What fears do you have? What did the other person do to make you fall in love again? Or say start over?
Though I've never been married and never been in a relationship that long, my only thought of what it would be like for some people would be to be standing at the edge of a cliff. You need to jump across and there are only 2 possibilities. One is that you will fall to your death (the relationship not working out) or you jump across and land safely on the other side.
I can't imagine anything like committing your life to someone and planning a life together for it to all just end. Divorce is never easy, and it doesn't get talked about nearly enough. But it is possible to love again! So many people have and will continue to flourish after divorce!
I was with my ex- for 17 years before we divorced. And now I've been re-married for 2+ years. I wasn't the least bit afraid of being in a relationship because, well, that's what I had missed during all those years of marriage. If I had wanted to stay lonely, I would've stayed married.
It hasn't happened to me, but my cousin's wife ditched him a year into marriage. He's engaged again, but he was very anxious about proposing because of what happened the last time. But this new girl is a million times better than the last. :-)
16 years married. Lost everything. Tried dating for 6 years and it's been horrible. The new dating scene was shocking. It's been nothing but games and flakiness. Women seem super suspecious that I'm out to hurt someone or insincere, or just wanting to get laid. And of course having custody of my daughter somehow makes me undateable to most women. Online dating was a complete waste of my time and money. Women vanishing at the drop of a hat, or having compleatly misrepresented themselves, or after much chatting- don't actually want to go out. It just seems like a complete joke to everyone. I so miss the old days where you chatted a little, went on a date and had fun. Got to know each other and went from there. Now it's been no fun at all and after 6 years of it I give up. They show intrest at first but it turns quickly into a game. Guess I'm not what 'modern' women want.
My boyfriend of two years has expressed marriage desires to me. Both of us were married for 3 years each to other people, both of us had never wanted to get married at all, and both of us had sworn off ever doing it again. I want to marry this man. Rather, I would say "yes" in a heartbeat if he wanted that, but I am just as happy staying a "GF". A hunk of metal and a scrap of legal paper does not define true love. Love takes time, real time and work. And sadly, yes, love can also fall apart if one of you changes.