This guy and I have flirted for a while online. We know eachother from real life though. A while back we talked about things nd he said he has personal issues that he doesn't feel ready to date anyone but he finds me really attractive and cool. I said we can be friends with benefits and he said that just hooking up isn't his style. However now we have plans to go on a trip together and he keeps mentioning things we will do sexually... So if he doesn't just like hook ups is he maybe ready for more?
Most Helpful Guy
same I dont like hook up as it is cause my girlfriend gets too loose I like more licking her out0
Most Helpful Girl
Agreed - he's hard to understand at first blush
but I'm betting that the only sex he craves now if the GF/wife sort, even if only in his mind... it must be some sort of parallel to what he had in order to be comfortable enough for him to participate.
It could be that only in a loving relationship doesn't he feel sexually competent or competitive with others, never the player or sex hound pursued by women by his reputation.
The only part I don't like is the "personal issues" and other lack of details not shared in order to fully understand his "restrictions" YET he's willing for both of you to share spit & privates on this trip ? Maybe it's just his little head talking and his big head will open up more on the trip.
I also don't trust such a statement as it has become a convenient stiffarm to relationships (but not sex) and speaks to the guy having an anchor, as if the gal has none.1