3 weeks ago, I went to go see my boyfriend and it ended with me going home early, by choice. We're both in our late 20's and we've been dating for over 4 years. So I went to go see him after I got off work. We usually talk on the phone every night; however, I didn't call him the night before nor did he call me. I wasn't mad about that and I didn't call him because I didn't feel like talking on the phone. We talked throughout the day that day, just not at night when he got off of work. I was focusing on writing a paper for school and wanted my me time after that before i went to sleep. So the following day, that Thursday, he called me while I was at work and asks what time i'm coming to see him and why i didn't call him the night before. I told him that I just didn't feel like talking on the phone then I asked why he didn't call, and he said that same thing. He was mad at my response to his question and hung up on me. I called him back to tell him not to hang up on me. I still went to go see him after work and kissed him, but he ignored me until it was time for him to pick up his mom (about 30 mins later). I had to ask him where he was going and that's when he told me that he's going to pick her up. So i asked him if he's going to run errands with her after and he said yes then left.
I'm always waiting for him while he's taking his mom around to run errands cause she doesn't drive. I feel like he doesn't make me a priority sometimes. After he walked out, i texted him that "i was leaving since he ignored me while i was there and was going to leave without notice or anything, and that i'm tired of waiting for him while he runs errands. And to make me a priority sometimes". His response was just "okay". I haven't heard from him since-- it's been over 3 weeks. He seems so unbothered by us not talking -- he's constantly going out and i just found out that he's messaging other girls. I really wish we could work through this, but i'm wondering if it's even wort
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Perhaps he is simply averse to drama and doesn't want to encourage it.
How we feel about a relationship is a sum total of our experiences with the other person, weighted by emotional poignancy and slanted towards the more recent experiences. To the extent we associate the other person with feeling good, we generally want to be with the other person. The more a relationship partner is unhappy, and in particular unhappy with the relationship, the less we are less likely to enjoy our time with the person, eventually becoming indifferent to their presence or even averse to it. (That's when the relationship ends!)
It would appear from what you wrote that your heat-of-the-moment feelings revolve around not feeling important to him, yet your behavior towards him seems inclined to push him away, as opposed to resulting in him WANTING to spend more time with you.
Many men react adversely to this type of manipulation -- this, "I'm unhappy with you, so be with me."
What you are experiencing could be the combination of these effects.
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