There's a cute, busty, very sweet Saudi Arabian girl in my Middle-Eastern History class. I've been talking to her for a few weeks, and we had a friendly meal at a Medditeranean resturaunt on campus about two weeks ago. So, I've been asking her if she want to see a movie, but she said that she "wanted to hang out with friends" that weekend. I also get the impression that she might be sending me some sort of signals of interest or disinterest (fuck if I can tell).
So, here's my plan; I'm going to ask her to see a movie this weekend, and if she says no, I'm going to ask her if I'm wasting my time pursuing her. Is that a good idea? Is that considered socially-acceptable? Hell if I know.
If she rejects you again (which will be the 2nd time), then it is not necessary that you ask that question. You should just move on. If someone wants to hang out with you, they will make time for you. When I'm interested in a guy, I may respond "No, I am not free that day but I am free _____ day". That is how someone responds that really wants to hang out with you.
Perhaps ask, but find a better way to say it. To just say "am I wasting my time?" Kinda makes you sound like a jerk. Otherwise if she still seems disinterested I'd say move on
I wouldn't even ask a second time. See if I was her and I was interested, I think id suggest another day; "Oh can't do sat, how bout sunday?" kinda thing. If she didn't suggest a different day either she's playing hard to get or she likes the attention and she's just wasting your time.
First off, a few weeks is not a healthy length of time to determine if you're wasting your time. If you like that much, you should give it a little more. Be her friend but don't give indicators that that is all you want to be. Don't give up man.
Secondly, a movie is not a good way to start a relationship with someone. "Hey, do you wanna pay to sit in front of a large t. v. and not talk to eachother for a couple hours to just end the night?" Attempt to find something you bother would have a lot of fun interacting with eachother.
If we go by the book, you made the first move and she refused. Save for some instances, when a person looks forward to hanging out with you, they Will make time for you.
Here's where you mess up: you think you should give up altogether just because she refuses, but then you can't let it go and need to know for certain and "ask her if you're wasting your time". Well, what would be the point of that question, she could say what ever she wanted.
Fuck the signals of interest and disinterest. Unless she blurts out to you that she isn't interested, you're well in the game. The fact is, you're interested. Are you a winner or a loser?