I lied to him about ap tests. I said I got 3's (barely passing) when I actually got 2's (failing). This was before I liked him. We recently started going out, & I'm scared he's going to hate me if he finds out. How much does lying affect a relationship?
A lot (you're screwed)
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Not much but getting lied to sucks, so don't do it again
If you tell him its fixable. Otherwise you're pretty much screwed. Unless you have some psychological compulsion to lie to fck up any and all relationships for no reason other than fear or avoidance of reality like pathological liars or sociopaths etc.. then id say its fixable.
To me any lie in a relationship is one to many.. in order for it to be the best the relationship can be.. one of the things is to be honest to you other, I do not think I would get many dates if any if I was not honest to my lady friends before any date, if I did not tell her I wear diapers and rubber pants and why I wear them.
I would not ever want a sweet lady that I am with to find that out on her own no matter how she found out.. I know for a fact she would say then.. why did you not tell me this about you.. I think and hope I get dates because I am honest, do not stray, and listen to their feeling always.. bottom line lying is not an option
as for your lie, it depends how much emphasis he puts on academic success in life, but it's really not that bad in my opinion. I personally wouldn't give a shit, in fact, I'd think it was cute that you lied about that.
Lying can impact a relationship a lot. Even if you think it's minor, he's going to see that your being deceptive. He is going to want to further ask questions as to why you feel the need to lie to him. Ask yourself this: would you want to date a liar? If you failed the test, you failed. Study hard and move on. Only he can determine if he wants to continue dating you. All I know is that once a person lies to me, I can forgive them, but I will remember this and it will impact wither or not I should continue dating you in a long run.
Once you lie to someone who trusts you , then it makes all your truths become questionable.
All you can do is be honest with him by telling him that you were dishonest about your reslults, but you must have a reason why you lied? So explain what made you feel you had to lie him. Maybe he'll understand. If you don't tell him and one day he discovers the truth he may never forgive you and not only will you destroy your relationship, but your reputation too
Its hard to regain trust after being lied to. you're basically between 'Do I take the anger from being honest about it, or do I take chances of him/her never finding out, but if they do they will be twice as angry'
In my opinion honesty is always best, even if its hard to admit, you will be rewarded with less drama.