Ok, so about 2 months ago my girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me saying that there was no more connection and there never would be one again. I was devastated to say the least. About 2 weeks after that she invites. me to the bar so she can achieve closer. I show up and we have a beer, she's quiet as could be and I'm attempting to not make it awkward so I'm friendly. We get into this conversation of answering eachother questions and I feel better. She admits to still loving me and I of course do the same, cause I still do. She leaves but I stay. The next day she texts me and tells me that she wants me to come to her house to talk about something, I hesitantly show. She asks me if i wanted to get back together, and that she broke up with me because she wanted me to focus on my personal and financial problems because she thinks I wasn't paying enough attention to them. My trust for her at this point is gone in the relationship department for obvious reasons. But I tell her I would love to. It was awkward at first, but I do love her. After a couple weeks go by, we were great, she paying attention to me, we were going out enjoying our selves, but she made clear we weren't supposed to let anyone know at work we were together again. And that when her semester at college was done we could be open about it. There is so much level of secrecy going on that I find it difficult to believe her about anything. I never know what she's doing. Where she is. Sometimes she won't text me me hours but gets upset when I don't text her while I'm at work. She doesn't like lovey dovey things anymore and now I find myself sitting in my room after a conversation with her hurting. She had been at the library doing schoolwork and she told me she just got home. I ask if she's done and she says "At the moment", so I try to call her. She doesn't pick up but texting back "im watching PLL"... I'm just wanted to tell her I love her before work. Opinions, thoughts, the truth, I wanna hear it all?
Most Helpful Girl
Smells fishy. The secrets are not good. Maybe she's hanging on because she's lonely? You could set up some boundaries and explain how you feel. If she gets it and understands but argues every point maybe it's time to move on?1
Most Helpful Guy
Okay, so what you're saying is that the trust is gone and the relationship isn't working out. The Pretty Little Liars thing is fine, people need their time. It doesn't sound like you're gonna get what you want out of this relationship. Maybe you should consider letting go.2