Yeah I think it is but it is not as black and white as that - First look at the dynamic between him and her, if it is obvious that he does not have feelings for her and likes you more. If you like him then maybe ask her permission to pursue it but if you are both on a equal footing I am afraid it is whoever liked him first, don't cut across her, if she tries and is turned down politely (if he rejects or uses her badly, don't go there) then maybe think about giving it a go. Only applies for crushes, different dynamic with exes.
No it's not, I've had to put women out the door and or not let them in due to that. When I was in a committed relationship, I had one come over everyday of the week while my SO was in the hospital, dressed in a manner that was to attract attention, I just told her each time nope she's not here come back Friday, and everyday was same thing, then on Thursday she asked to come in, and I told her nope not appropriate for us to be in the house alone together. Women are highly competitive and when in a lonely or other state of mind the girl code goes out the window. Guys are not immune to doing this either.
from all my observations and reading things on this site, women do not have a "true code". Like women do, they say one thing and do another. Women don't have friendships like men do. Women get so catty and jealous it is sickening. the "Bro code" is strong even between casual friends. You do not go after a women that your friend has "Called" without permission from that friend, period. That goes even if the friend dies. I once liked this women. My friend and I went on a double date with her and her friend. Me and her did not hit it off at all. she even faked falling asleep in the car ride home lol. he ended up getting laid by her friend. But he did hit it off with the women I was with. I told him "she is all yours". They ended up dating about 3 or 4 years. But had I said no, he never would have done it.
Well tbh how would you feel if your friend did that to you? What would you feel if your bff went for a guy that she knew you liked? You'd probably feel a bit disappointed, especially if they start dating. How awkward would it be to be around them when they are all kissy faces together and you are there too.
I mean, if you talk to her first and she is fine with you going for him then that's okay. But I would definitely talk to her.
in my opinion I always back off when I know a friend likes a guy. I see him as off limits. It's not worth it for me to lose a friend over a guy.
I always hear of this "girl code" bit never see much evidence of it. To the contrary. I see and hear of girls ripping and attempting to steal away boyfriends of their own closest female friends in many ways, backstabbing is worse among females then males. In fact so much physical confrontations and major fights of rage erupts often over it, many times indirect too. Girls are a lot nastier then guys in this respect.
I think girl code is talking about it with your friend and seeing if it's something she's ok with. If she's ok with it, go ahead. If not, then don't. Every situation is different and the flexibility of girls varies. For me personally, I wouldn't want to hold back a friend from pursuing a guy she's into, just because I'm also into him. It would be selfish of me to prohibit her from being with him, especially if he also likes her back. Yeah it would hurt but I'd get over it. I can't speak for other girls though, which is why it's always a good idea to just ask and talk about it.
I think it's just a friend code. If a friend tried to persue a guy I liked then she wouldn't be my friend anymore. I think the rules are that you stay away from your friend's crush until she gave permission or the guy gave more attention to you than your friend and so it wouldn't have worked out anyways. After all it's the guy's choice.
I think it depends. Is this a new crush or someone she's been pining for, for months/years/etc.. Would she be crushed if you started dating this guy; stuff like that. Generally yes, it is girl code to steer clear of dudes your friend likes. Dating him is not worth losing a friend, dealing with jealousy, and all that negativity that comes along with situations like that. However, some friends just don't care. Personally, my best friend is the first to promote dating anyone I could have potential with, even if she liked them. Of course I never go down that road, but it's the principle of her actions.