So I have two guys right now that have the world's biggest crushes on me, and they happen to be my guy friends. It's so obvious that they like me because they go overboard on the compliments, and talk about how they're getting over their recent break ups and relationship advice stuff. Pretty much saying how they're not a fuckboy like some guys.
Both of them keep hinting that they want to date me so badly and DM me often.
It's a little overwhelming for me because I found out through another guy friend of theirs. This isn't the first time I've had guys come on too strong on me, but the ones in the past weren't as obvious at first that they were into me until after they got to know me. These guys I'm talking about, I don't know them as well.
How should I respond? I don't want to come out and say I don't like you like that, or I'm already into someone else, because I am into someone already but we're not dating (yet). If I already had a boyfriend, I would have a much easier time saying no, but I don't at the moment.. I'm still in the, "getting to know you" and "flirting" phase.
I try to be considerate of people's feelings but cases like this make it difficult because both of them have self esteem issues. Ones chasing acceptance, the others making me his rebound.
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's better if you tell the truth, it's hard at first but infinitely better than letting them think they have a chance.1
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest, if there is something I've learned from online dating it is to get to know all of them a little better before you turn anyone down. The guy you are interested in hasn't made you his yet, that means you are still free to see what others have to offer and I *highly* recommend using that freedom. (Although a little less so on rebound guy.)
It does 2 things. 1-it gives you a chance to be surprised and swept off your feet by the ither man and 2-it keeps you from getting too attached to someone who wants to drag his feet. (There are a lot of girls who will be in nonexclusive psuedorelationships for months or YEARS. I've never had the problem. You don't have to advertise it to any of the guys either.)0