My whole life I've always been attracted to the wrong guys, I CHOOSE to date assholes cuz its exciting & a part of me always hopes that I can change them. I find them hot & sexy & sex w/ the "asshole" type is always SOO good, whether ur on good terms, bad terms, love each other or hate each other its always good for many reasons 1) guys like that have had a lot of practice, 2) they dont get their feelings involved in sex, they dont have sex to make love, they f**k & us women lay there & think were making love w/ them but no theyre just f**king us, & 3) its good cuz there's usually so much turbulence in those types of relationships all of that hormone build up, that fear u get when ur fighting & about to have another one of your weekly "break-ups" when ur like "omg I've lost them... were never going to be together again.." ya of course the sex feels good after u make up. So that is what I've always been attracted to. But when I was 22ish I ended a relationship w/ a guy like that & I was drained & tired of chasing that so I decided to date different guys, so at 23 I met a great guy; I was really happy & I really do think he was everything I ever wanted! Great job, great family, completely financially independent at 26 & he made great money, bought me the most lavish gifts, he was about to start Dental School at a top tier college, he was SO smart.
Most Helpful Guy
Relationships are more about discovering yourself and meeting some needs than the other person. People are attracted at the subconscious level. The subconscious is trying to fill in a void from childhood (imperfect love, rejections, wounds, etc..). So you are attracted to guys that aren't emotionally into you which makes me think you have fears of being emotionally attached, or something like that.
So you want to break up with a great guy and the question is if you should? Bottom line, you aren't at his level of emotional health IMHO so let him go. You will just be unhappy and you'll destroy him. Option 2, try to stay in it and let it be a facilitator to grow. Get counseling to help explore why you feel the way you do and you may discover hidden wounds and needs and you'll change, and then what you want will change. It (discovery and healing) is going to happen anyway, you can work on yourself, or you can just let time do its work. But the results of being with so many bad boys is going to take a toll on you.0
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Lol I totally get you, I love to fuck assholes as well. :D It's because they are good looking and they don't give a damn about anything else then their looks and how to get laid. They are good teasers, they make us jealous and driving us insane. I know they are assholes and I could never be with him in a relationship, but doesn't stop me from wanting to fuck him. :D It's all about balance, though. When I met my boyfriend I thought he was complete asshole. He is really good looking and has that asshole-face (and he also acted a bit like an asshole towards me). I wanted to fuck him and I already labeled him as a fuck-buddy. I treated him like asshole because better safe then sorry. Damn, it took him a lot of hardwork to convince me that he actually is not an asshole lol. I just couldn't believe that a guy like that him exsists, like there MUST be something wrong, he can't be perfect. Well, so far so good. :)0