My whole life I've desperately struggled with feeling worth it to anyone, especially men. Now that I've started "dating" this guy for about 3 months now a lot of my insecurities flare up. For instance, he tried picking me up. I see myself as this blob and didn't want him to just because I didn't want to embarrass myself but he tried anyway and he did but the whole time I felt so ginormous. I'm a size 14 and he's a slimmer athletic guy so I naturally I just feel out of place sometimes.. Even though he always compliments me and shows affection I can't help but think negatively.
Guys: if you're really into a girl, does it matter that much?
Girls: any advice on getting over these insecurities?
Most Helpful Guy
if the curves are still there, it is attractive and find it more attractive than skinny. There can be too much. Magainzes/hollywood is off on this IMHO. Round for me is bad, not true for everyone.
You should talk about it with him and explore further. He may have had "larger size" role model women, so he likes that. ask him what his role models were?
Your self image issue is an issue that you need to work on (get counseling so you are happy with yourself). Secondly, if you dont' like your self image and appearance, take ownership and change it. Lastly, don't let him dictate your shape, even if he wants you something else. Be the best you that you can be and be ok with it.0
Most Helpful Girl
This guy really likes you and your weight is not an issue to him. He said "it's fine" because guys can be somewhat unsure of what to say when a girl tells them about their insecurities. He finds you attractive, which is one of the reasons why he is with you. He wants to do sweet things like pick you up and have you sit in his lap because he likes you so much. I'm slim but exercising has always made me feel better about myself. It doesn't have to be going to the gym 6 days a week- you can walk or jog for 30 minutes a few times a week. It will make you feel stronger. I think you also need to think about all of your inner characteristics you bring to the relationship. Eventually we all get wrinkly, but a good heart can last a lifetime2