This happened to me, I want to save the relationship and I love them very much however they thought I might be cheating on them since I was hanging out with someone who likes me BUT has a partner.. I was fery transparent about this but found a spy camera and he admitted to it right away. I asked a similar question yesterday however there was a lack of responses.
Most Helpful Guy
What would I do? I would use it as an opening for a discussion with my partner about intimacy and trust; I would try to understand if we were on the same page regarding how we treat one another and the relationship; I would explain to my partner how that behavior made me feel and see how they responded.
People do make mistakes, the most important things are to understand why and to try to make things better going forward. If a relationship has a mechanism for addressing issues like this openly and constructively, that's great. If your partner demonstrates no caring for your feelings, or is unable to be vulnerable to you, that would be a far greater concern than any camera.
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Most Helpful Girl
After reading some of the added details in your examole, I think I can understand where he was coming from (not that it was right of him to do).
I think, given the circumstances I would talk to him about it, including how what he did made me feel, and asking him some probing questions to get to the bottom of why he thought it was necessary. Ideally this would lead to a deeper understanding between the 2 of you and hopefully some compromises between both of you on what is and is not appropriate/what you can and can't deal with from each other.
What he did was wrong, but I'm not sure what you did was entirely right either. If my boyfriend had got me a hotel for my birthday weekend, I think he would Def have been invited to come along with my friend and I and out with my friends that night. If he didn't want to it is a diff story, but for what all he did, I think I see where he'd be suspicious of you not including him that day. I think my friends would understand he being invited along once I explained his bday gift...3
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