This guy at first showed a lot of interest in me and today we went on a second date (first one was good). He initiated both dates. I liked him instantly and I thought I'm at least gonna get laid. The second date was terrible. We talked about many topics and that was alright, but he did EVERYTHING that you shouldn't do on a fucking date (even if you don't like a girl). He was often looking at his phone, sometimes cheking the time and sometimes TEXTING to someone. He would take a phone in a middle of a conversation and start texting, without an apolagy. And he would smile while texting (I'm 100% it was some girl). He didn't compliment me at all, didn't ask any questions, nada. He would bluntly check out girls passing and even making a comment about how they look. When I tried to bring the "us" topic he just shut, lift his eyebrow and didn't know what to answer, just changed the topic. He then said how he can't wait to get home to have his favorite meal because he is so hungry (I then said that I was hungry too and he didn't even invited me over). He was laughing all the time and seemed like he is having fun. I then had enough and I said I want to go home, and he even asked why and suggested to stay a bit longer haha. I'm actually really shy and I'm not good at arguing with someone I just met, I just wanted to get home as soon as possible and block this motherfucker. Can't believe I let him lead me on for 3 weeks! Why is this world full of fucking retards?
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Sorry, I know that was painful... you feel rejected. There must have been more time invested for you feel so strongly. 3 weeks of texting (if that is what it was) is bad. Texting creates a false bond that is not real and hurts like heck when it doesn't pan out. Don't trust it. Only trust face to face and over time. This is why it is wise to take things slowly even though your heart is racing...
Develop some boundaries to protect yourself. You see what just happened to you... how much worse would this be if it went "all the way" and then you found out the answer? many times worse. Also... take time to heal from this inside. Don't carry around flaming arrows in your heart to the next person...
It isn't clear how to read his behavior. He may have been playing with you trying to make you jeleous, but then he didn't push you further, so it doesn't make sense.
He may have been trying to lower your self esteem, as part of a game he's playing to seduce you, but I don't see that clearly either.
Maybe he was immature and just a rude and a jerk.
your question of why the world is full of f@#$! retards is a deep one... there are reasons...
But here's my last point... and this may hurt... and something for you to think about. you were attracted to him... ummm... that isn't good. What will you be attracted to next time? Is it possible you are drawn to the wrong kind of person? If so, get counseling to dig into why. People bond in the subconscious... something inside you drew you to him. Warning! Dating is learning about yourself so pause and ask what just happened and what you can learn about you. Fix that S#@t now before it leads to bigger problems. Develop (or maintain) your self esteem and confidence. Don't let a low life like that bring you down and learn to value someone who treats you well.
That may not be fair. I just have a snippet you wrote to go on. Maybe it was just a bad apple and you will appreciate a quality guy that much more. There are lots of immature "bad" apples so get used to spitting things out!:)
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