The guy that I'm talking to pointed out that a lot of guys like me. He said something like "Almost every other guy here has a crush on you." And I replied with "Yeah, but I only have a crush on one guy. You." So when a lot of guys want a girl, does that make her more or less desirable to a certain guy?
- Seeing that other guys like her makes her more desirable.49% (33)22% (17)34% (50)Vote
- Seeing that other guys like her makes her less desirable.21% (14)37% (29)29% (43)Vote
- Other.30% (21)41% (32)37% (53)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I say less desirable. At the very least it comes with negative shit that comes with it that I absolutely do not want to stress over.
But if you're already in a relationship with that girl everyone wants there *could* be an element of satisfaction about it, which is not to say it makes her more desirable. Although that can also some with insecurities so sometimes it could feel kinda good, sometimes rather bad, but it's not *positively* linked to desirability.
I don't want the competition. Contrary to what you might think or have heard, most guys don't like such competition.
I don't want to feel like another random face in a crowd. If I'm finding that a bunch of others are into her then I'm going to experience feelings of aversion and not want to be there; it's a turn off.
I don't want to stress over trying to distinguish myself from the other guys hanging around her, doing shit for her, etc, unless she's actually expressed a strong preference for me over the other chumps.
So yeah, less desirable. Makes me feel discomfort and a I-want-to-be-somewhere-else-now feeling. But saying you have a crush on me would get us around all that, so I think you're off to a good start.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'll vote a, but it really varies. If you rub it in their face it will make you less desriable. If the guy is pretty sure you are going to pick him, or that you are seriously considering him over the others, then I've found it makes you more desirable.
(Guys don't like to fail, so if they see overwhelming competition they might not bother. But men are competitive, so "winning" or being chosen by an in demand girl would be a good ego boost)1