I need some tips because this is frustrating... Like I'm not a dog trying just bone everything (well unless the right girl can make me feel like that) but I want to be able to start a conversation and be considered for a date...
I just don't get it, this just doesn't seem to work - I'm not even being that picky... It's only been a month for pof and a couple days for tinder but it feels very socially dead and it all lacks chemistry.
It's hard to say. Different women will look for different things. I personally used to reply to everyone and see how the conversation went because I didn't like to judge on the profiles. My preference was also towards meeting as quickly as possible to avoid the whole "is there chemistry " situation.
I could probably speculate on what you could improve in your profile or the messages you send out but you didn't give me anything to really go on...
It's not easy for us girls either. I've been using online dating sites and tinder for 3 months now. All I've been getting are hook up requests. Time and patience is the key. Showing and saying that you are a nice guy is not lame, when done correctly it give the impression that you are sweet and we like sweet guys.
I personally hate it when in the first few messages being refered to babe, baby, sexy, beautiful etc... I also don't like tons of flattery or guys trying too hard. Just be yourself and act natural. I read the reply on shirtless pics. 1 or 2 is ok but I ignore those who's profile only show how built or hot they are. Show the goods but also show that there's more to you than a hot body.
Don't be negative and take a break if you need to. I'm currently taking a break because I got fed up with all the lies the guys are feeding me. I actually called a guy out for only wanting to hook up. His response what that he really was interested and was not looking for a one night stand. I have him the benefit of the doubt and made it clear that if he was serious don't make any moves. When we met he did everything that I called him out on.
Good, flattering pictures of yourself. Including a pic of you smiling! Maybe a pic of you doing a hobby you like. Something to make conversation of. Have a good description of yourself. Don't say "I'm a nice guy" in a dating profile description. It's not interesting, and its something girls hear a lot from guys. And don't just say 'hi'. Have something more to say or even ask a question.