For the record, I don't care if my boyfriend has friends that are girls. His best friend is a girl and my best friend is a guy, so it bothers neither of us if we have friends of the opposite sex. I also trust my boyfriend completely.
We both met this girl at the same time. She's the best friend of one of his girl friends. I don't like this girl. I don't trust her. I get this vibe that she's a bitch and I also just don't trust her around my boyfriend. My boyfriend is bi-sexual and jokes around about being the "gay best friend" a lot, which he basically is, haha. I They were talking at the party we met her at and today, when his friend brought her up, he was like "I basically became her designated gay best friend." Then he asked for her number or snapchat.
Like I said, I trust him completely. I just don't like or trust her and I'm trusting my gut on this one that there is something off with her. I'm not upset with him for asking for her number because I know he doesn't mean anything by it and he even asked for it in front of me so I know he's not trying to hide anything.
I'm not a jealous girlfriend. I'm territorial, but not jealous. I just don't like the idea of him talking with her. Would it be bad to talk to him about how this would make me uncomfortable?
It seems you are already open about that kind of stuff. I'm assuming you've had talks about guy/girl friends as you've both got them. Communication is healthy, if you have a concern talk to him about it. I've had bad vibes from people and been right, it's always good to listen to your gut. I feel like men tend to be less intuitive than women (yes I said it 😜) but I swear its true. I've warned bf/exbfs of unsavory characters and they don't listen and learn the hard way. Dont be pushy though, say your piece and he's gonna do what he's gonna do. You've already established it's okay to have friends of the opposite sex in your relationship and you need to respect that he will choose his friends based on his thoughts decisions in the same way you would with a male friend.
Similar happened with my ex and one of our "friends" that was a girl. At first it didn't bother me that much, I liked that girl and I practically forced them to be good friends as well (I thought they would like each other because of this one hobby they had in common). But after awhile, I started feeling the same way you do, without any proofs really. He had other girl friends and I had guy friends, in all 3 years none of them ever bothered me. Until this chick. It was just a gut feeling, you know. I told him about my concerns and he was convincing me that I was wrong and that I'm overreacting. But he did stopped hanging out with her. He didn't like the idea but he did it for me. I and I was calm and happy. Few months later, I caught him cheating on me with her.
No, you should tell him exactly how you feel. If yuo keep it to yourself it will just eat away at you and unitenitally you might end up being resentful towards him etc. I think you should just tell him, that way it's off your chest.
If anything, I think you should tell your boyfriend your concerns and feelings about this girl. Hopefully it'll cause him to open his eyes and see if he feels the same that you do about her. But I think it could be a big mistake to come right out as tell him he can't talk to her.
It's not exactly right to ask someone not to talk to someone. However, if you want a healthy relationship, whichever gender role you are playing, there needs to be comminication between you or bad energy will build and tear you apart. I would tell him honestly that she makes you uncomfortable the way she jokes and the overall vibe she puts off.
If it was me in this situation, I would say something. I would just be sure to make it clear you aren't telling him he can't talk to her, just that it would make you uncomfortable and you wanted to make your feelings known.