Married but talking to a coworker about sex? Both of you have agreed you can't because you're married but still talk about it to turn each other on?
is this as bad as actually having sex?
Most Helpful Girl
There's no universal things that are 'cheating', and that's something that differs with each couple. Like some couples are cool with being open with sexual activities, others will be cool with talking about sex with others.
Did you tell your wife, or would you, and not expect to have her lose her shit over it?
I'll assume she wouldn't be okay with it because, I mean, if you have to ask yourself if it's cheating, it probably is.
As for whether or not it's 'as bad as actually having sex'- could be. For me, if my boyfriend were to have sex with someone else, it'd be the betrayal/complete lack of respect that would hurt the most, versus the actual physical act. So yeah, if you know your wife wouldn't be happy with these sexual conversations with your coworker, it could be just as bad.0
Most Helpful Guy
No. Mouth to mouth, or inappropriate touching, or penetration is cheating.
However, mentally you are cheating. But those are part of life. We are all tempted although most won't admit that. It is how we handle things that make it cheating or not.
Stay away from your co-worker or keep things professional.