I listen to all the advice and everyone has a different opinion for every question. Does anyone really know the answers? Relationships are as different as the people involved in them. Is there really a written set of rules?
Do you agree all relationships are different and no one has the answers?
yes every relationship and circumstances are different, i just share my opinion here and tell them that its a possibility, no one can say anything for sure sometimes because we dont know anything about the asker and the asker partner.
Dating is a script everyone follows. The mores and customs were all invented before any of us existed. Marriage is the same. There are little variations in the script because of the people, as you suggest, but the structure being the same means there are going to be certain expectations and similarities among almost all relationships. And yes, there are always outliers, but that doesn't alter the general situation overall.
All people are unique. Consequently, when you mesh two people together, they create a relationship that differs from all other relationships. However, there is a finite number of characteristics, traits, and personalities. that a person can have. Those characteristics, traits, and personalities can be shared amongst people. So, although no one can provide you with a perfect answer to your relationship issues, they can provide valuable insight.
Of course nobody can give the correct, impeccable answer to every question. But everyone can try deduce. If I read "My boyfriend beats me, should I break up with him?" I won't start thinking: "Mh... maybe she used to beat him up too" or "Maybe she is a whore who cheat on him constantly..." I would just say "HELL YEAH AND GET HIM UNDER ARREST!" because none of my thought justified what he did!
I would say that, practically, no one has all the answers. There are many different circumstances, people, etc. That said, many have experiences to draw from, and a good number of situations can be reasonably generalized.
Accidentally clicked no but I meant to choose the first option. In a way it of is a yes or no answer though. Some things can be generalized some things are specific to the relationship. For the most part the first option is what I would pick.
Every situation has variables... What is a constant though, are patterns, such as abuse...
I still think that asking for help and considering people's answers is beneficial, obviously it's best not to take someone elses opinion as better than your own concidering you are the one who is actually in the position, can see the most information, and is affected by the consequences of taking the advice or not.
Yes, no one has all the answers. That's why I get annoyed with middle aged pink users writing walls of text. Girl, you don't know shit. You only think you do. Save your keystrokes and pull your head out of your arse.
That is a load of crap. Saying all relationships are different is a way to say you don't understand. It's an attempt to take you out of the universality of the human condition. Sure there are aspects of a relationship that vary but the totality of the relationship is the same for everyone