I'm was a friends with benefits with a coworker. He broke it off. I feel played (he got his rocks off, I didn't, then he ended it). I've been trying to do the No Contact rule for my own sanity. But we're coworkers and I see him for an hour each day (luckily our shifts only overlap for an hour). I was doing well at avoiding him, but today he went out of his way to talk to me. He's still acting distant, not flirty at all, but friendly, asking for the most recent office gossip. I fell into it and texted him that I had more gossip after he left. He just texted (immediately) "nice", which for him was pretty dismissive. I feel like an idiot because I was trying to keep away from him. I get so anxious around him. It's so uncomfortable. I'd love words of encouragement. I'm going back to trying no contact (to get distance and preserve my sanity).
Also, I'd love your opinion - it was just weeks ago that we hooked up and he ended it because we got caught at work. Him being friendly to me at work makes me nervous. Is he trying to keep the door open in case he wants to hook up again sometime in the future? I don't understand why he's going out of his way to talk to me while remaining distant. (The relationship was never serious, just friends with benefits.) Thanks.
Most Helpful Guy
That must be awkward1
Most Helpful Girl
He is just trying to be professional and just have a conversation with you at work. It's not weird for him at all. You're the one that making weird and uncomfortable. You guys can still talk being that you work together, just keep it professional that's it. New rule should be no sleeping with coworkers.1
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