I do not run around, I have only had 3 boyfriends. In the beginning I always state that I am a relationship girl, and I do not have times for games, lies and disappointment.
I have waited in this game of dating before I had sex with my bfs
From two years to three months to a week, and all I got were the same results of disappointment, hurt and betrayal.
I will tell you why, these men will willingly hunt me down, text and call me, hang out with me, but no grand public appearance. Whenever one is to be made it is with some other girl, and they act as if they do not know me. I am tired of this cycle of hurt and disappointment
Why am I not claimed?
I am not promiscuous, I am loving, caring and compassionate.
I am educated and ambitious
Why do they insist of making me the laughing stock
Most Helpful Guy
"In the beginning I always state that I am a relationship girl, and I do not have times for games, lies and disappointment." This makes you sound like a demanding girl who doesn't understand that a relationship has to be earned. Many girls are like this, unfortunately.
Imagine meeting a guy who acts as follows: "In the beginning I always state that I am a sex guy, and I do not have times for games, lies and disappointment." Would you want such a guy? Of course not! It's worse than that, actually, because this would at least show that the guy is confident, whereas what you are saying makes you come across as demanding, even aggressive, which is not good in a girl.
Give a guy a teaser of what a relationship with you could be like. Show him what he is missing. Don't pressure him. If you develop the right mentality, he will end up wanting a relationship with you, and you won't even have had to stress out to get him to that point. It will have seemed a fun, effortless process.
I speak as a man who has learned to make girls want to sex with him quite quickly. Do I still fail sometimes? Of course. But, when I do fail, it does not bother me. You need to develop the same mentality with regard to getting a relationship with a guy, and you will have many successes.2
Most Helpful Girl
are you overweight? are you good looking to most people? if you answered yes to the first question and hesistated to say yes to the second then that may be your issue. guys can be pretty shallow and dont want to be publically seen with a low status woman. and even if you may hhave good qualities on the inside, if you aren't hot on the outside most guys will try to use you for sex
if you are a pretty/hot girl and still having these problems then you are running into fuckboys and you're probably too nice. what i mean is, you can be too accomodating to guys. stop giving men time if they aren't doing anything for you. dont text back, stay on the phone with him, take calls, and chill over at his house if he isn't taking you on dates and spending money on you. if he cannot publically appear with you and put in effort for you, then you shouldn't have time for him. sounds harsh but thats how you avoid the problem of men using you and trying to keep you a secret. you have to be a challenge and you can't be that easy breezy girl that a guy can just waste time with for an ego boost. only serious men need apply.
you seem to be a great woman who would make a good man happy but you have to be hard to get. no hanging out and chilling (even if you aren't having sex) unless he is taking you out to decent dates and proud to be seen with you. you're better than that0