I have been casually dating this guy and I am always the first to text him but then after I text him we text all day long. Does me texting him first mean he's not as interested? Is it true girls should wait for men to text them first or do guys like being text first?
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If you're always the one who contacts him, it's hard for you to know how important you really are to him. But don't jump to conclusions yet because there may be two very distinct things going on here.
First one is that maybe he doesn't text you first because he may be busy doing something, or distracted. But if he likes you, regardless of how busy he is, he will at one point stop what he's doing, think of you, and then wonder why you haven't texted him. When that happens, there's a high chance he'll text you or call you or whatever. xP The problem is that if this doesn't happen for like, 3 days or so... it means you sort of don't go through his mind at all. I doubt it's that though because you said you two text all day.
Which leads me to the second point, which is that maybe he's just shy and never knows what to say first, so he's always counting on you to text him. xP This was my case, except it wasn't texting it, it was MSN. I'd be dying to talk to this girl, but wouldn't know what to say. And I'd never say anything out of fear of sounding lame or boring. But once she'd messaged, we'd talk for hours. Maybe it's the same thing with this guy. =p
Either way, forget this nonsense about guys always having to be the ones to text first. It doesn't matter! The only thing you've got to worry about, is to not be too clingy and give him some space if he needs it. If he's not very responsive when you text him, it usually means he's busy doing something else and needs some time for himself.8