I'm a short woman (5 ft) dating a short handsome guy (5 ft 4). I think he's really good-looking, hot, fit, intelligent and charming. Yet, he sometimes has huge self-esteem issues that are hard to understand.
He's very insecure that I might leave him, but for me it makes no sense that he has this feeling, since for me it's so obvious that he's much hotter than me (I'm like a 7, he's like an 8). Sometimes I wonder whether being short might have marked is self-esteem forever... and led to these insecurities (though he's hotter than me, maybe he thinks that his height curtails his options in the dating market to about half, while in my case being short is no big deal, most guys wouldn't have a problem than that?) - still I know quite a few girls were falling for him when we started dating... like 3 or 4... (I had a few guys after me as well at the time)
tl; dr Wondering how much being short may work against a guy's confidence and self-esteem, even when he's handsome and girls are after him?
Most Helpful Guy
It can effect them a lot. You know how much being overweight can hurt a girls self esteem, and she can do something about her weight. Guys are completely powerless to change his height, so that feeling of powerlessness is added to his body image issue.
I know 350 pound women that will not date any guy that is below 5'10 regardless of his other traits. With women that desperate constantly letting short guys know they don't make the cut based solely on his height, imagine how hard it is for short guys with the majority of women that aren't desperate and can afford to be picky.
If the majority of men wouldn't consider you over a trait you can't change such as your height, it would effect your self esteem a lot more than you seem to think.1
Most Helpful Girl
Being short means so little and makes no difference for me and a lot of people but certain people do have more centralized insecurities. That said, all you Can do is be there for em. Love him, and reassure him why you love him and how unneeded his insecurity and doubt is.1