So I asked the girl that I've been seeing what she was doing this weekend. She said that she is extremely busy and is really sorry she can't hang out with me this weekend. Now we haven't been going out long, and I don't think she knows, but this weekend is my birthday. I have never been big on celebrating my birthday, so I am honestly fine with us not doing anything. But this will be my first birthday alone, all of my friends are out of town and I moved away from my family, so I'm not sure how that is going to go. And now if she asks me what I'm doing this weekend I'm going to feel bad saying "well it's my birthday, but I'm not sure what I'm doing." I don't want to make her feel guilty for missing it...
Should I still mention it's my birthday? I just don't want to like guilt trip her, or make her feel like I am guilt tripping her? I would imagine she would find out on my birthday from social media, but I figured giving her a heads up first would be the best route
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Aww yea that's a tricky situation.. also I'm really impressed that you put so much thought into this, it's really nice of you :). And I think she will probably feel bad for missing it, even if you say it's fine and you're not big on celebrating it.. I don't know.. it might be better for her to just find out on social media and for you to tell her that you didn't want to say anything because you didn't want to pressure her since she said she was busy already.
But if you do want to give the heads up first, I think all you can do is really be careful with the wording. So rather than what you have in quotes, if she asks, "not sure yet.. it's actually my birthday weekend but I don't really have set plans yet". I know it sounds exactly the same lol but the way I read it to myself it comes off less harsh2