Would you ever date someone that would put their career over you into their mid 30s?
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No... because if I am investing in someone long term I am expecting the same in return. We can both put our careers forward and in front of us, however, if one of us wants to put our career first- then that should be a mutual feeling - where we both are putting our career as a priority and will still work together as a couple and accept that long hours, hard work, etc and little time for each other.
However, if one person is very career oriented and the other isn't, that partner is likely to feel abandoned and will feel lonely... leading to 1) either demanding more attention therefore suffocating the career oriented partner or 2) the abandoned partner to cheat...
Either way, it is a bad outcome so the best thing is to have both partners communicate and decide/agree on what the 2 of you want and the costs and sacrifices this means and both are willing to make as well as the consequences of the actions... because money and sex are the main factors in relationships and break ups. If both of you understand this and are willing to make it work and not give up, it can work. Otherwise, it is a doomed relationship and it best to stay single, alone and work towards your goals without any distractions.
Personally, I would not date someone who puts their career first or over me. However, I understand that sometimes your career will come first. But not if it is everytime... Everything in life is about compromise... Maybe I am still too young and inexperience to have a say in this, but we prioritize and put first what is most important to us... whether it is a person, a job, an appointment, or other... And priorities show who is most important. If I am giving someone 200%, I expect 200% in return.
If I am putting my career first, then I will search for someone who is also putting their career first.. Like understands like.4