I am 21 years old and had 5 different men as sexual partners. Only one of them was my ex boyfriend, the remaining were either one night stands or friends with benefits. Anyway, fast forward, I met a guy and he is really nice. He's 22. He's actually courting me for a few weeks now. He asked me if I was still a virgin, and of course, I said not anymore. Then, he told me he was still a virgin. He didn't question yet the number of partners I've had before, but I think he's eventually going to ask. I'm afraid that he's going to be turned off if I told the truth. I like him, he's really nice and I see his potential for a long term relationship. Should I tell a lie, or would that cause problems in the future?
Most Helpful Guy
you shouldn't lie for a few reasons
-- lies tend to come back and bite you in the but
-- if you are lying because you are worried about his reaction then perhaps this relationship isn't really going to be successful. a guy you get into a relationship with should like you as you are, not as he wants you to be or as you want to present yourself
Most Helpful Girl
If you want something serious with him in the future, lying is not a good idea.
You don't want to begin your relationship like that.
I'm talking from experience because I had a little more sexual partner than you and I did tell my boyfriend the real number. I don't feel ashamed of it. My man think a woman has as much right to have sex with whoever she want, just like men. I couldn't imagine being with a man who think otherwise.
If you start something serious with him, you would begin it all with one lie. He could lose your virginity to you, you have to b honest with him. Don't be ashamed of your past experiences.1