When I hear about a girl, who likes/wants/is have casual sex... I feel very insecure and hurt inside... ( I don't know if insecure is the correct feeling, but it's the closest way I can describe it)
(But for some reason, if she has a boyfriend I don't care, non-casual)
I have nothing against the girl seeking sex, but for some reason I feel hurt and insecure...
This might because I am a virgin, I am jealous how easy it is for women to get sex, and also my crush has slept with other guys and it hurts thinking of her with other guys...
I just don't want to feel this way,
I was listening to a story of a girl who was cheated on, and how she hooked up with "a lot!" of guys to fill the void.
Just something about the "A lot" made me feel very insecure. This hot girl may have hooked up with 3?5?10? guys? What is a lot in a week?
And I am not even at one in my 24 years on this earth :-(
I am not sure what the solution is, it's not easy for myself to get a girlfriend or sex, all I hear about is sex...
I need to stop feeling this way, can you help with your opinions?
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like you have more of a traditional mindset/moral in this situation. Some girls aren't that traditional anymore. You just have to venture out and find that kindred spirit1
Most Helpful Guy
I think this is due to how society sees virgin men. Apparently, a man shouldn't be a virgin, especially when he's 24. Society laughs at men like that. Girls don't like virgin men, unless these girls are religious. So knowing that society doesn't like you because you're a virgin, is something that subconsciously is making you feel bad.
That's why you feel insecure when you hear about girls having casual sex, because you automatically think that since they're not virgins, they won't want you, because you ARE a virgin.
So that "insecure" feeling is also a feeling of "undesirability".3