a lot of women/girls on here claim to want much taller guys because they make them feel safe (some only claim they're more attractive, but feeling safer with them comes up alot), I'm curious other than height what makes you feel like a man is able to protect you? does he have to be muscular? does something about a man's personality make him seem like he could defend you better? what about aan exactly makes him seem protective to you?
yes, he must seem strong/able to defend me against other men
Ehh who cares if they like it or not, if she's in danger or requires protection that's just what's going to happen, it's the decent thing to do to any person whether they be male or female, friend, partner or stranger.
The problem is real world fights where someone is trying to kill you is not a rocky balboa fight where the toughest dude wins. They will use guns and knives and they will attack you when your back is turned. The problem so man women AND men have is that they think being tall and strong will make a huge difference. It really won't. And so it brings a false sense of security. So many guys become arrogant and incompetent because of it an act more reckless because they think they can handle the danger and thus they actually endanger the girl they're with. They may end up antagonizing the wrong dude one day and thus get himself and the girl killed. The girl would have been safer had she been alone in such situations. But that doesn't discredit the biological logic of bigger=safer. Since that is absolutely the case in virtually all other animals. So it makes sense biologically but in the modern world it's really not applicable for humans anymore unless you find yourself in the unlikely movie scenario where the weapon slides across the room and it becomes a fight of fists. Which again really only happens in the movies.
i always say to women that are always going for the huge muscular or aggressive types... that they find it hot to watch their man get aggressive with others, but one day that aggression could be turned on them... who is going to protect her then?
Just to make a point, a strong man with hardcore muscles won't necessarily defend you from anything. The 2/3rds who voted he must seem strong is a requirement are not very smart. A man who seems week might be more prone to defend their lovers when necessary.
I want a girl to protect me not the other way around :/
Having done martial arts for most of my life while the other kids did soccer I'm happy to attest that this seldom boils down to how big someone is. Naturally a very big difference ends up meaning a lot but...
I did PTK when I was 17. Hadn't bulked up. Wasn't the biggest guy. Average or thereabout. I was chasing around 120kg bodybuilders and the only guy in the group who could consistently match me was my own size (maybe smaller). I had the typical won't back down "Killer" mentality. They did not. It is sort of how a chihuahua usually sends a great dane running. Can the Dane overwhelm the chihuahua? Absolutely. But most of the time it loses mentally. So I guess my point is, any guy who would fiercely defend someone is likely to come out successful against your average but stronger opposition.
Its all about his actions. Apart from height, actions speak louder than words. I remember one time I got in a minor car accident, I hit the car in front of me and I went off from the car and found he is gangster, even scarier. So then my natural reaction is to call my boyfriend since i was on the way to his place. Just like miracle he was in the car way behind me. So he came to me, talked to them and shaked their hands, said sorry to them. And they decided not to exchange any insurance info. Its a minor crash but at that moment, I feel like I fall for my boyfriend badly again ! All the physical appearance doesn't matter the most, what matter the most is how he handles things when I have totally no idea what is going on.
I don't expect a man to be the super macho "I can protect you type" since I'm not a little bitch, but I certainly don't want a date a guy that'll use me as a meat shield either. A happy medium is invited.
Look, I don't necessarily want my future boyfriend to get in a fight. But if he does, I would prefer him to win. Also, I think protectiveness, strength and toughness is attractive because it biologically attractive to have this trait in a male.
Opposites attract in femininity and masculinity. I feel that this applies to homosexual and lesbians as well; even if the gender is the same, I've seen a masculine/feminine difference between individuals of same sex couples.
I voted C purely because I think A and B are stupid. I don't want a weak man but who says the guy has to defend me from other men? I can't speak for other girls but I know when I say that I and my man to protect me it's usually not a physical thing. Just like how a child feels safe and protected in their mothers arms. It's not so much that your mother seems "strong and able", rather you know your mother will look after you no matter what and there is a bond of love. When I say a guy makes me feel safe it's because knowing that I'm not so alone is some of the bet peace of mind there is. When you fall asleep with your head resting on someone's chest and you can hear their heartbeat thudding in a comforting rhythm it's calming, not because its a show of strength but the knowledge that someone else is there and that your not the only one who is willing to protect you. That's just my opinion though.
Yes, I want a man who is able to protect me. I am very very weak myself. 90% of *women* are probably stronger than me, nevermind men. He doesn't have to be *too* muscular. I don't think most women want extremely muscular men. "Toned" is better.
Opposites attract & I am personally fairly weak (physically) so I look for a man who is stronger than me in that sense to compliment me. Usually people will look for someone with different strengths to themselves.
I picked the first option but that's not what I necessary feel, it's more that I'm attracted to guys and feel safer with guys that have some meat on them and not sticks. And if I was shorter I'd appreciate the whole reaching the top shelf thing 😊
Yes, I think I like idea of guy that can protect me :)
I do prefer someone who's not weak, but it's not exactly about muscles and physical strength -- I like guys with a strong mentality, who are protective, and care about my safety. I don't want him to get into situations where he's faced with defending himself or me, but I just want to know that if something bad happens I can count on him not to turn tail and leave me to get hurt. I wouldn't abandon him to a fight either, and I care about his safety too, so I expect the same kind of strength, loyalty, and protective instinct of taking care of each other, whether that's emotionally or physically.
Height is about something else for me, not care or protection. It's just attractive in and of itself and makes me feel more feminine. Kinda like asking why some guys are more attracted to girls with big boobs, or small boobs -- they just think it's sexy, and that's that. It's not hard to be taller than me though, since I'm only 5'3".
Not that he has to defend me, I can defend myself... I just don't want some weak bitch as my man.