I have been dating with my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are both 28 at this time. Our parents and friends know and support our relationship. We are living together and share the bills equally. Although I am JUST his girlfriend, I do all duties of a wife such as cooking, doing laundry, and also buying gifts for our families and relatives on holidays. We split the costs but I do all the thinkings.
Our family are not rich like millionaires but we can afford buying designer brands occasionally. I am employed but he has no income because he is a full time student.
a. Most of our friends already get married and have kids. They keep asking us about ours. He said we would after he graduated and got a stable income. But that will be 3 years from now and there is no guarantee that he will get married with me. In our culture, having a title in a relationship is important especially when we have sex before marriage and everyone knows we live together. My friend suggested me to tell him about performing a formal tradition between 2 families to announce that I am his-wife-to-be. I told him about this idea couple times and he hesitated of doing it. He is committed in our relationship but he is not ready for giving me a title.
Should I push him for this? Should I be angry if he doesn't want to give me a title?
b. He never buys me expensive gifts that cost more than $200. He does not spend much for himself neither. I feel jealous when his sister (a hooker) receives LV, Gucci, etc. from her short-term boyfriends from time to time. She is not committed to anyone but she can receive expensive gifts from people. She also asks her parents (my boyfriend's parents) for her own expenses. I asked my boyfriend to buy me a LV bag (<$2000) and he told me to wait until he gets income. But that will be 3 years from now! And who knows if we are still together until that time?
Should I push him to buy me expensive gifts? Should I be angry if he doesn't?
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Stop sounding like an entitled baby. You can go be a hooker too and get gifts from people who pay you for sex, but you don't want that do you? He has a perfectly good reason for not doing these things.. HE HAS NO MONEY. It's a GOOD THING that he's aware of his finances and his monetary capability.
Getting married without both people being financially stable is a terrible idea. If you want the ceremony that's fine, though from a guys perspective it's like "well I already know I want to be with her, why is this such a big deal" and it probably also costs money that he doesn't have. You already live together and you already call each other boyfriend and girlfriend, those are titles.
Getting a $2000 LV bag is ridiculous. You don't need it. And just because he can't get it for you doesn't mean that he loves or values you any less.4