I've been dating this guy and things have been going amazing and I thought he was really interested in me. But then I saw on Sunday he liked some other girls pic. Before you start giving out and calling me insecure or a bunny boiler. My ex used to do this all the time and it turns out he was cheating on me with one or two of the girls. He would like there pic and then slide into their dm. Same with me if I upload a new pic the only guys only like it too creep.
i know it sounds silly to most but too me it's a massive form of disrespect. I don't do it when I'm with someone because I'm worried it would hurt their feelings because at the end of the day you're letting someone else known you find them attractive.
I really thought this this guy was different and it just makes me want to end it. I don't want to put myself through that worry. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sorry, you need to grow up a bit. I like selfies because its a good pic not because i want to hook up with them. My wife does the same. We have been together for three years, and not once has she cheated on me, and nor have i cheated on her.
Its not disrespectful in any way unless he is leaving sexual comments. Let me put in a context that makes a little more sense. Just because he likes one kind of food does not mean that he loses all appreciation of other food. Its natural for both man and woman to look, and to control that aspect of your partner is both controlling on your part and reveals your insecurities.
At one point in time i dated someone that was like you. Of course in my case it wasn't selfies, it was the act of interacting with someone at a check out stand or any where else for that matter. Her impression was if i was talking to someone of the opposite sex that was not her, was not gay or was not actually a male or a family member, it was cheating. It went so far as to say that if i was out with her at a movie, and there was a love/romantic scene i was required to look only at her, not at the movie, because to look at the screen during that was cheating. I dropped her very quickly because i dont need that kind of BS in my life.
If you dont Grow up and look at it objectively i promise you will lose him.0
Most Helpful Girl
No, my guy does this but it's actually just because he thinks it's a good picture, but it actually means nothing to some people. Like it took me forever to get over this and I'm still ehhh.. about it, but I've seen the way he scrolls through IG and he literally likes just random things he comes across and doesn't give it a second glance, it almost just a habit thing, "oh nice picture, like." end. There have even been times I asked why he liked a picture and he literally doesn't remember doing it, and is like "i literally have no idea, I don't know it was probably just a good picture". He objectively recognizes that it's nice but it doesn't mean more.
If you really like this guy I think you should give it a chance, this isn't something to break up over, if anything you can just talk to him about it and explain where your insecurities come from.1