I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. He just dropped a bomb on me that he's infertile. I REALLY want biological children of my own and want to share that with my future spouse. Does it make me a horrible person if I decide this is a deal breaker and stop dating him?
Most Helpful Guy
No it isn't awful of you. This is fair incompatibility that sometimes occurs in relationships. Anyone telling you that it is awful of you for not giving up your dreams and life goals, for a guy you have been dating for a couple of months is an idiot.
I hear people complain about nonsense deal breakers all the time, often to the point they exclude 100% of humanity in their list of deal breakers. Your deal breaker however is very reasonable.8
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think this makes you a 'horrible' person. It's a sad situation all around because obviously it's not his fault. However, you have every right to desire biological children. The decision to have children or not is a big deal in a relationship. Even though this isn't really a 'decision' since he can't help it, it's still a major issue if one partner does want biological children and the other person is infertile.
Ending things would probably be best for BOTH of you. You can move on and find someone who will be able to give you biological children. He can also move on and find someone who will love him and be okay with adoption (or not having kids at all, if that's what they want).1