Are there any good guys left in the world? I was dumped two months ago by my 2 close to 3 year relationship boyfriend now ex boy friend I was still holding on because he said he loved me and wanted to stay close but did believe I deserved better, as a resort to him messing up he took on drugs and drinking and lead me to beleven that he still loved me but just wasn't ready to be with me. He was my first love and everything. Our relationship had its ups and downs but was good especially the 6 months before he broke up with me. Anyway I recently found out he slept with someone or believe he did as he has hickies. We used to still talk and he would ask me out on dates to the movies or dinner or just a drive but stopped during spring break. So I asked him if he was speaking to someone and hooking up with them so I could just give up seeing as if he can have sex with someone else he doesn't love me (he knew I was open to sex we hooked up twice before) he responded with he didn't have to answer the question and I can think what I want but that he is single And he is however because of all the things he said and did I believed part of him still wanted to be with me and that we still had a chance after graduaction. I'm really just tryinf to move on I have deleted his number and text messages. I feel like there are no good guys out there and the ones who are. Are with girls who are bogaz. I'm afraid I will end up alone or that the guys in my generation will just get worse and worse. They are either disrespectful, only want to fuck around or just have issues. I've hung out with this other guy 4 times since our break up but I don't think he's the type to want anything serious and I don't think I have a chance with a guy like him. I just want to know if there are guys out there that are good or at least decent. You have your flaws your not perfect. But you respect your girl and don't let others disrespect her you are loyal and honest and at least try to make her happy
Well I would never brag or nothing that I am a better guy then any other, but I am one that does get along well with the ladies, and I still to this day date even tho after the fall I had left me wearing couple of different garments that I used to wear but I am honest to my lady friends about that right off the bat, before any date takes place and when I have told them this it has made no difference, and not one date has declined because of what I wear, I also would never cheat or stray on the women I am with and treat them all with the respect they deserve.
And l listen to them when they want to talk and am an honest guy and I expect the same thing back from them and have always got it, I like to take my dates usually to dinner, a movie, then somewhere to dance.. on a few it was all three.. to my way of thinking honesty is always the best policy.. with that tool a person can go a long ways.. it has always worked for me.. take care now.. hope everything what ever you do down the road.. works out for you
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Yes, there are some good guys left out there. Not the self proclaimed ones that are all talk, but when it comes down to their actions they aren't exactly "nice" or "good". But genuine good guys that actually respect others and show kindness, I know some of those.
Yes, of course there are good guys left in this world, I am also one of them.
Nice guys are still there but unfortunately women won't like nice guys, good guys and will eventually leave them for someone else, or someone better ( who may not be that nice), It's unfortunate but it's true.
There are very few women who stay with a nice guy/good guy till the end.
Yep, most guys are like that. Just because a few have done wrong, doesn't mean everyone will. You're just focusing on the negative men, and ignoring the good men. It's the "missing tile syndrome". There's a wall that is absolutely perfect, BUT, it's missing one tile. There's 99 perfect tiles, but one is missing. You just focus on the missing spot, and therefore can't see the perfection of the other 99 tiles. Now apply this to men. There are 99 perfect men (obviously perfection doesn't exist, but you get my point), but there's one awful one. You're just focusing on the bad one, ignoring the rest, and therefore believing every man is bad.
Stop. Surround yourself by good men, and stop hanging with the wrong ones. You said you're hanging out with a guy that doesn't want anything serious... you've hanged out 4 times with him. Why? If you know he's not looking for the same as you, why do you still hang out with him? Drop him and go for the good man, there's millions out there. You've got so much to choose from, you're wasting your time with the bad ones and letting the good ones go.
I regret that more girls didn't answer you. We guys are clearly biased. While there are plenty of girls and guys in bad relationships on this forum and many of both sexes who have been cruelly used or abused in relationships, there are many, many others who seem to have healthy relationships. That means that many guys (and girls) are decent, respectful and hopefully loyal and honest.
The guys you describe seem all of the same type. This suggests you spending time with the wrong sort in the first place. You probably have to reevaluate where and how you meet guys. The problem isn't the lack of good guys; the problem is finding a guy who is both good and compatible. It may require that you expand your notion of who you could be compatible with.
I can ask the same question. Are there any good women left? To answer your question yes there is and I am one of them. It's just hard to open up, because my kindess has been taking for a weakness multiple times, so now I am more aware of who I talk too.
Definition of good is an interesting question but I'll ignore that. Yes, I've met some good guys your age I think fit that, they are out there. You may have better luck in a church where at least some values are conveyed.
sorry about your loss. it sucks! I say stop hooking up. My generation would say that is not "good girl" behavior. I don't know about your generation... you have to determine your boundaries, values, morals.
looking for a decent guy? im here :D just kidding. :P i would say to you that dont you think its a sign that you shouldn't rush into these things and you should stay single for some time and be happy with your self and when the time will be right you'll meet the right person, and there are some nice guys that you want so dont worry and dont rush.
And hey its not my fault girls choose shitty guys, good looking and overall great guys exist everyone but some women just choose the shitty ones and complain later i've seen it before, maybe you're not exactly good quality either to begin with...
Um, at your age the best place to look is... see that sign that says shy guy? take a swing past there, you find that it's in the "friendshipzone" department. A lot of caring guys are shelved here. There are loads of them. The majority are awesome, you just got to sometimes help them by adding some spice.
I myself would say I am, I guess. ._. I tend to love making my girl happy. Like seriously best feeling ever when she is jumping for joy. She does it for me to ^-^. Now ofc I have my flaws where I am a little jealous even though I know she'd never cheat on me, but again, she's the same way, we eventually found a median and never have to be jealous anymore. And as for honesty we literally tell each other everything. No seriously literally. LIT-ER-ALLY. But yeah I don't know. I guess I'm one?