i asked her if she would ever get bored of me, cause I've been cheated on a lot, and she told me to "Stop, your gonna push me away." Why?
Most Helpful Girl
She's telling you to stop saying things like that because she doesn't want to get hurt. If you've been cheated on a lot, its understandable that you'd ask a question like that because from your perspective, you are afraid that she's gonna leave or hurt you. Saying something like that just hurts the both of you because its like you are expecting her to leave or hurt you because everyone else had but this girl could be different. It's better to have loved than to not have loved at all. I learned that saying things like that does nothing good for a relationship because it shows that you don't have trust and faith that the relationship will last. Sometimes its hard to forget how hurtful other girlfriends/boyfriends have been to us but I don't think past relationships should dictate how much love you have for the current person in your life. If you say things like that often, don't! I mean, its okay to ask a question like that to ensure that your relationship is still strong after going through a difficult time but I wouldn't just throw that sentence around.0
Most Helpful Guy
That's because women by nature don't appreciate questions that shows a guy's insecurity.0