here's an older women I’m interested in at my job, we are co-workers. She's thanks me a lot and one time she said, I'm an angel for always helping her at work. I got her phone number yesterday and she didn't ask any question about it and also hasn't mention a boyfriend or husband ever since I've been talking to her, but yesterday she told me she’s single because I asked her, if her husband helps her out around the house. After asking her that, she asked me, if I have a girlfriend. She only mentions her daughter and grandsons. She showed me pictures of her nephew and I told her I looked like that when I was little, but then told her I was just joking haha, she said, no you're handsome.
I asked her, if I look better with my glasses on or off and she said, that I look cute with them on. I didn’t expect that answer from her, it was nice. I don't care about her age, just our conversations and just having a great time with her at work, and being helpful. I would joke around with her and she would say, that I'm cute. She also gave me a hug because I told her that you can always let me know, if you need help.
We work in different departments at the store we work at. I don't know, if she knows that's I'm interested in her. It looks like she does because whenever I walk past her I would look bad at her and she would smile and I would smile back at her. I know she’s older than me, but I would like to possibly go out with her. Do older women know that someone is interested in them?
Things look great, but I'm curious, how long should I talk to her before asking her out for coffee? I've been talking to her for about three weeks now. I really want to hang out with her and talk to her outside of work. I feel like I can connect with her. She doesn't think I'm annoying because I ask her, if she needs help and she doesn't think that at all. I asked her, just to be sure. Her daughter is 30 years old from what she told me. She lives with her daughter, I believe.
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well, if her daughter is 30, she has to be at least 45 (in the case she had her as early as 15 years old) but more likely she is older than 45.
Anyway, there is absolutely no reason why you 2 dating would be illegal. both are adults and can do whatever the fuck you please.
She might know you like her, but probably expects a "friendly" sort of connection. My best bet is, she will be very surprised if you ask her out. I think she might be interested in you, because what other reason might there be to not wanting to tell you her exact age... Go for it man. Today, tomorrow. Next time you talk to her, just casually ask her if she would go for coffee with you. that's it.1
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In answer to the first part of your question, she probably does know you are interested. Once women have children or pass thirty their ability to recognise signs of interest from a man doesn't diminish. They may doubt themselves more, especially as you are significantly younger than her, but she will have noticed the signs even if she isn't certain what conclusion to draw from them.
As to the second part of your question, that is more tricky to answer. She could do, but equally she may look at you as someone her daughter's age so she relates to you differently. I'm afraid that if you want to find out you may have to dig a little deeper about the kind of guys she likes to date or, and this is the risky part, just ask her out. It doesn't need to be too heavy but you do need to be clear that you are asking her out, don't invite others along, don't say 'just as friends, of course', after you have asked her to dispel any awkward moment that may occur, and do be prepared that she may say no. I would always try to ask her out privately when no one else was about to eliminate any other pressures on her at that moment.
A rejection could come in many forms but it is always worth remembering that if she was interested she would find the time, 'being busy at the moment' is a 'no' and you need to respect that. If it goes that way then try to carry on as you are with her, things may change as she gets to know you better, they may not, but you mustn't get hung up on it. If she says 'yes', then have fun and I hope it goes well for you.0