I used to think they do.
But now I feel they just want a nice girl who would make a good wife and a good mother.
Her education level doesn't matter that much. Like it would be realistic for an engineer to marry a teacher.
It does confuse me though because if one person is working a very demanding/tiring job, (like if one' s a lawyer), and the other is working a very easy-going, but fulfilling job (like a photographer), they could definitely get married but wouldn't there be a lack of connection between the two.
The photographer would always be unhappy that the lawyer is working long hours and it would feel empty to her.
Most Helpful Guy
Everyone is different.
Personally, I'm a lawyer, and my wife is an accountant. Prior to getting married and even meeting my wife, I would date "artists" or "artistic types" - "free spirits" (if you will).
I'm not quite sure if it was some creepy paternalistic impulse inside me to want to be their "daddy" or caretaker and provider, as if that would solidify somehow my identity as a "man." I'm not sure if I enjoyed the feeling of having a "partner," or the feeling I was enjoying was almost being "charitable," "giving," "helping," "superior," "stronger," etc.
Either way, I had a choice to make... do I basically want a quickly depreciating sex toy to be my lifelong partner and the mother of my children, or do I want a genuine partner in life? Do I really want to be the only one who knows what it means to bust my ass at work? Do I really want to be living with the fear of my whole family being out on the street if my boss forgets to take his meds? Do I really want to have another person that's "dependent" on me living with me, but for who I can't even claim as a "dependent" on my tax return? Do I really want to find myself in a situation where (because of the financial power disparity) my wife uses sex to try to balance/equalize the playing field?
So, after a few "artists," I realized a few things.
1. A vagina is a vagina is a vagina. Once you've had one, you've had them all.
2. Looks fade, even after just 3 months.
3. Looks get boring, even after the 3rd time you have sex.
4. Sex gets boring... sad, depressing, but true.
5. The relationship and journey that's between two people is what keeps the sex interesting... not the looks, or the dirty talk, or the role play of Broadway's "Hamilton."
So, I made the choice to find someone who was just as hard working, educated, and high-earning as me. I didn't want a pet or a dependent. I wanted an equal and a true partner throughout life.0
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Most Helpful Girl
photography is not a very easy going job. it takes s lot of skill and can be very stressful.0