1. Drinks 5-8 drinks daily (bar then at home) 2. Lives with his mom 3. Smokes pot 4. 1/2 his monthly income goes to his recreational habits pros. 1. Holds a decent job 2. Has a kind heart 3. A great guy overall 4. Treats you very well. 5. Educated, smart
He is 40 lol Was married, then lived on and off with ex. girlfriend. I didn't want him to move in with me till I get to know him better. So far this is what I learned about him.
Sounds like me! But I don't drink daily. I only drink like that on weekends about every other week. The only thing that strikes me as a little odd is I'm 22 and you're 36~45 so I'm assuming this guys not 22. At 22 I often feel like I'm doing extremely poorly for myself and it's easy to blow my expendable income quickly because I make very little. But if I'm still like this years from now I'd probably hate myself.
Move on. Drinking, pot, spending 1/2 his income for recreation. Not going to change. Some women marry a man (or are just with a man) and expect them to change, or think they they can change them. The person you marry is the person you marry, not one you want or expect them to be. If even half of your list is something you can't live with - walk away. You're setting yourself up for heartache - not to mention he may tap into your funds - even if it's just you paying the entire rent while he lives rent free. Did he ask to move in with you? I'm sure he wants to get out of his mom's house.
I would not let my daughter date that loser. According to Alcoholics Anonymous, anyone who has more than two drinks, more than twice per week, has a problem. Marihuana use is another sign of a weak and addictive personality. It is only a question of time until he slides into marihuana psychosis, from which there is no return.
The drinking thing wouldn't cut it for me. He's just constantly drunk. Living with his mom is fine depending on how old he is, if he holds a decent job I expect him to be able to move out and cut down on his recreational spending. It's indicative of his financial mentality.
depends on the drinking, the status of the marijuana, and exactly how much money is leftover. basically if he's abusive in any way, id know to leave asap and i would NOT go back. if he's drinking and smoking himself into the poorhouse, "bye!". and, of course, if the grass is illegal, im leaving. i dont have to condone his law-breaking 🙅🏽 the mum thing is a problem, but if he loves you enough, he'll sack up and move out. might even get him to stop drinking or smoking (to save up some money)