Yesterday I approached my boyfriend (ex now) with an issue that has been bothering me for awhile. Just a little background on us – we’re both in our late 20’s and have been together for 4 years. I’ve had a feeling that my boyfriend has been in communication with one of his female co-workers for about 3-4 weeks now. I know that he goes out with his co-workers from time to time, but I just had a feeling that he’s been texting this one female co-worker a lot. I’ve asked him a lot of questions this past 2 weeks to try to get a sense of how frequently this communication is, but he hasn’t answered truthfully. So last week we get something to eat and she texted him. He left his phone in the car because we were listening to music on his phone and he went inside to pick up our carry out order. I saw her name pop up and took a mental note of that because I knew I was going to bring up this subject pretty soon. I have the password to his phone, but I don’t snoop in his phone. So this feeling I have grew stronger over this past weekend, and I finally approached him about it yesterday over the phone. I asked him if he was in communication with her this past weekend, and his answer was no, and I also told him that I saw that she texted last week when we were getting something to eat, and his response was that he didn’t respond to her, which is a lie. So yesterday while on the phone, I asked him to take a screenshot of his text messages from Saturday, and I told him to promise me that he wouldn’t delete anything. Before he sent the screenshot, I already knew that he was texting her yesterday. So he promised that he wouldn’t delete anything, and of course, their text conversation didn’t appear in the screen shot, which means he deleted it. So I took drastic measures because I knew I was being lied to and it hurts so bad. I told him that I was going to come see him after he got off work so we can review his phone records. I can't fit all the details here. Please review the rest below.
Most Helpful Guy
Be in a relationship that you can work things out.0
Most Helpful Girl
Well if he didn't bother to try to patch things up, phone records are really excessive IT WOULD be much easier if he just admitted it and I think you should tell him that you just want the truth, it'll be an easier process so unless he just wants to make the situation more complicated its in his best interest if he wants to make it work, to be honest. Find the deeper underlying issue of why he communicates with her so regularly, is it because he's bored? Feels lonely? etc.0