Many of the users have responded to other questions with general statements about being afraid of dating. We're all different in some ways and we all have our own hopes, dreams, and desires. . . and our own fears. Please tell me, and please be specific with your answers: what is it about dating that scares you?
I'm afraid I'll run out of things to talk about
20% (19)27% (12)22% (31)Vote
I'm afraid that the other person will reject me
26% (25)22% (10)25% (35)Vote
I'm afraid the other person will want sex too soon
16% (15)2% (1)11% (16)Vote
I'm afraid that the other person will think I am boring
13% (12)24% (11)16% (23)Vote
I'm afraid that the other person will think I am not attractive
16% (15)13% (6)15% (21)Vote
I'm afraid that the other person will want to get serious too quickly
5% (5)7% (3)6% (8)Vote
I'm afraid that the other person will tell others unflattering things about me
E all the way. It's not exactly a blessing to be this tall and trying to date, when most guys have a preference for shorter women. I've had guys tell me I was not attractive because I was too tall, among other asshole-ish comments. I got over it eventually.
Can I pick every single option? Lol. In a way I am afraid of all of those things. Maybe not if they think I am attractive, if they already met me before the date then I am guessing we are out because they are attracted. But, I guess mostly running out of things to talk about because I am a little shy. I used to be a lot worse and I am becoming the person that talks too much when nervous, haha. But I am still bad at initiating conversation sometimes. Also, I would worry that they would tell unflattering things after it didn't work out, but that would be horrible to do if you were dating.
If I'm dating or considering dating someone, I don't think I'd be scared of any of the options listed in your poll. Of course I'd have the insecurities of myself being 'too tall' and such but alas, not much I can do about that one.
If I let myself get to the stage of 'dating', I'd imagine that I'd already feel pretty secure in all of those, like what we want from the relationship, how into each other we are, etc.. My biggest fear when dating or in a relationship with someone would be dishonesty. That they'd lie to me about who they're hanging out with (like another girl).
I have ny been afraid of rushing into something im not prepared for. people have so many different ideas of what dating means, so you're never sure what it is you're agreeing to when you say yo want to date. s for gong on a date nothing. thats no big deal. i just dont like eating ot.
as far as se of course i wouldn't want to do that before im ready but i simply would not. so thats not a fear just a rule.
i think if communication is good there's nothing to fear. i think when people fear things its bc they are not are what is going on or what is expected or what is heard.
i think in cases of mutual respect and solid communication no one would fear. But that kind of dating would need emerge out of friendship and i think few people have the patience to be friends with someone they are attracted to. its the only way id do it. i could never date a stranger. i not date till im in love. otherwise i dont feel the impetus. there's nothing i want that i can't get in a friendship if im not in love.
a lot of the fears you mention sound like doubts about the quality of character in the other pen. with decent people even if things dont work they dont tear you apart.
i think i'm pretty good on paper, but i have so many hang-ups lol. i can't really imagine someone being patient enough to deal with all of my crap. also, there are so many beautiful women out there. i'm not sure i could keep a guy's attention from wandering... and that's what guys do. they may not physically cheat, but their eyes will wander, right? bleh. i guess... i want someone who will be devoted to me, but i think that's probably an unrealistic expectation. so i'd rather just... not date, not get disappointed. also... I don't know. i'm not that good of a person lmao. sure, i'm not murdering people left and right, but i get frustrated really easily, de-motivated, possessive, super stubborn, judgmental, not very transparent with my feelings except when it comes to anger, etc. i would not want to be with me. so i have no right to expect someone would want to be with me.
I'm not afraid of dating. But if you think about it... you agree to date someone and like... you could be signing up to be with that person for the rest of your life. And if it doesn't work out, you're agreeing to not be friends with them forever.
I'm afraid I can't fall in love. Besides that, nothing about dating really scares me. Maybe he will change his mind or he will be a hapless romantic, a yup, and I won't be anything special, just something to obsess over.
Several reasons for me: I have social anxiety to the point where every time I've started dating someone I've thrown up out of sheer nerves (lost 10 pounds when I started dating my first ex because I couldn't eat for a week), I have terrible self esteem and I'm scared of hurting things because of it, I'm afraid they'll get bored with me, I'm afraid of someone seeing me how I see myself, the guys I see around me are generally morally repulsive to me (partying, being fuckboys, insensitive, etc.) so I'm afraid of thinking he's a decent person and being wrong, and for whatever reason I have problems showing affection (even though I definitely feel it)
Vote H = Nothing makes me uncomfortable = This is my life :P
that's the person doesn't to be in a relationship fast
My biggest fear of it all is that someone I'm head over heels for will drop me like I'm nothing for a shallow reason, and not think twice about it.
I have a boyfriend now but he's my second boyfriend in my whole life and I'm 21. The first relationship lasted a month. I'm afraid of committing myself to the wrong person and finding out way down the road that they weren't as serious as I was or finding someone who is better for me. I don't want to waste my time or give everything I have to someone and have it not be enough.
Let's keep it simple: I'm a potato its hard to find non taken male potatoes.
Actually I have an issue with the finding some one to date. I am (apparently) very picky so I don't feel much of anything until I get to know the person which means its hard to find some one to ask out to begin with. Thats what I hate about it.
Umm yeah... I'm 17years and I've only been on 4 dates my entire life :( yeah I know it’s sad !! I'm a huge armature in dating and girls, so to me just seeing her for the first time on the date makes me uncomfortable as hell. I'm from smart to stupid in 0.00000001 second’s But from the options above, these make me the most uncomfortable. I'm afraid I'll run out of things to talk about !! I'm afraid that the other person will reject me !! I'm afraid that the other person will think I am boring !! I'm afraid that the other person will think I am not attractive !! I'm afraid that the other person will tell others unflattering things about me !!
I'm not uncomfortable with dating, in fact I'm definitely for it. It has been less challenging for me to find girls to make friends with, not go out or hang out with them just be friends, I'm so indecisive as to who could have I pick out of all of them to date and be in a relationship, and if they want that from me too. Is tough to find someone that could be on the same page as you. I'm generally a cool, calm collected, mild mannered and positive all around.. I feel like I can always do work for me but I feel my personality is not a problem.. everyone is on the go, move move and there is no time for anyone a lot of the time, everyone is so busy or at least pretend to be.. it's tough to date because of that. I'm not hideous I have normal looks but I don't consider myself super attractive but depending on my day or how I'm feeling at the moment determines how I see me. Anyway I don't lose hope and I don't close the door on any girl I know that I like. That's were I'm at now