I have been talking to this guy for over a month. We started speaking online (bare in mind we went to school together, so he isn't a complete stranger). Every other day he has asked me to go out and I have declined (for varies reasons). So he kept joking around by saying he was going to come to my work place to see me.
I genuinely thought he was just joking around until twice last week he mentioned being near my workplace and he was going to pop in, however I was on my lunch break both times.
Today out of nowhere he walked in. At first I didn't recognise him and then when I did, I froze. I said hello and although he was waiting to be served I avoided it. My colleague called him over and then I walked over to talk to him briefly, then I walked off. Before he left the building I said bye to him. My colleagues noticed that I seemed very distracted and I was acting really weird. Right after I texted him to tell him I went into shy mode and he seemed okay about it.
Since then he hasn't really asked me to go out or texted me much this evening. Does it sounds like he's lost interest?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, I would have lost interest since I would perceive your attitude as reject. Honestly, If I was this guy, I would be wondering "What did I do wrong? Why is she so distant?"0
Most Helpful Girl
I honestly would lose interest if I were him as well.
I mean, I get that you're shy but there has to come a time where you break out of it or you will lose any one who shows you interest.
You're coming across as distant and cold.
If that's not what you want, then you have to break out of it and explain yourself to him.
Take the initiative... ask him out.
Let him feel wanted.0