Me and my girlfriend met two weeks ago. I recent bought a bus ticket to go out and see her. My grandpa just passed away. The funeral is this weekend the same weekend I'm was going to visit her. My dad asked if I was still going to see her. I said yes but he guilt tripped into saying I wasn't going. I told her couldn't make it and she freaked out and got mad. I don't blame her for doing so. If I don't go to see her I don't know when I can. It could be another month or so. I've told her I'm coming to see her. My dad said its my choice if I go to the funeral or see her. I don't know what to do. I really want to see her more the. Anything.
Most Helpful Girl
Funerals are for the living, not for the dead. You are not going just to honor your grandpa (your personal memory of him), you are going to honor your entire family and share this hard moment with them.
If a girl is worth her salt, she would understand and encourage you to go, because she would out of affection for you, desire for you to act in the best way possible to maintain good relations with your family. To be happy.
Obviously she is a self centered cunt.
Based on that point alone you should go to grandpa's funeral and treat this relationship as a dispensable toy.
If that's not enough for you, I can add that there is nothing more sleazy than disrespecting your family in such difficult times over the desire to make out with some girl you just met.
If that is not enough for you, then add to that her blatant imposition on you. In short, in this relationship, she already wears the pants if you bend to her will whenever she throws a fit, because she threw a fit. Don't let her "freaking out" be your motivation for anything, or you may as well end this relationship right now.0
Most Helpful Guy
Well you have to make a decision, decisions can be tough.
1. You could go to the funeral and fulfill your promise to your father and grandfather; both of them have always (assumption) been there and both of them would attend your funeral no matter what.
2. You admitted that "I really want to see her more the. Anything." so maybe thats what you do. Maybe this girl is so important that our father and grandfather would understand.
Consider both sides. You must make this decision.
I will not tell you my opinion because this needs to come from your own heart and your own values.
I hope you find your answer :)0