okay so newish to my work and a girl has been showing signs she likes me (subtle shy signs). I ask her to lunch and she says yeah but my bank card isn't working so when it is ill tell you and we'll go. After that she seemed more open and talkative, but its been pretty much 3 weeks and no lunch. so naturally i feel rejected so I've been loosing interest and withdrawing. since then she seems kind of bummed out and a bit more shy again so i have no idea what to think. she is definitely showing signs of interest and im not a guy that thinks every girl is into him, girls in the past who have asked me out even said they were giving signs like crazy that i was oblivious too. i just can't get over the fact that, who goes 3 weeks without a working bank card or cash to go on lunch, it has to be a cop out. She is exactly my type so i dont want to just brush this off if there is something there. so what do you think is going on? should i ask her out on a real date and see what she says?
So i took your advice's, told her to have lunch with me Monday,( this was after lunch, didn't get the chance before.) You guys were right, it worked, not only that, she was trying to talked to me a bit after words, hangin around my desk and again when we were off but i was dealing with flipping out customers. Excited to see what happens Monday. Thanks for the reassurance, it pays to listen to strangers.
I'd ask her to hang out after work or off day and grab something to eat. If she says no then it's cool, give her time. NoW STOP READING SIGNS IT DONT HELP!!! Just get know what he'll she want to do and move on from there. If you two like each other, get some communication going, start slow, and let it flow. This shy, subtle hints bullshit going get you thinking for years. She's not playing games yet but after a month.. she's playing games. Now let it be known what's up and take her out. You can pay and let me somewhere cheap.
Ask her on another date 100%, personally from reading what you said, I think that she's waiting for you to ask again, she doesn't want to come off as too eager or maybe thinks you've lost interest and forgotten!
she doesn't want you, she's keeping you as an option but you're not the main dish body sorry , she thinks your good but she wants to see what she can get so you're here for her and she is feeling safe cause she has you , if she doesn't find a better man you're here so its all good, move on, dont give her that satisfaction, dont let her feel safe.
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