I was on a vacation for two weeks in Spain. I just arrived back yesterday. My heart is eating me out. I met a Spanish man there, and my vacation was a dream trip because of how passionate and affectionate he was. Everything was so perfect. I have never received as much love from any guy that I have dated before. I am a mother of two and I feel like I am losing my mind thinking that I won't find a guy like this again. He was hugging me and kissing me continuously in public and in private. He was finding every way possible to make me smile. Giving me body messages every night. Holding my hand and caressing me all the time. The sex was so darn good. Saying goodbye to him was painful. I am a 32 year old woman. I have dated so many men and broke up with so many men. I was married for six years and divorced my ex husband after years of misery. I feel dumb and stupid that after meeting this Spanish guy and spending less than two weeks with him, I feel torn and hurt. I have never met a man who offered me much affection and love like this guy did. I feel lonelier than how lonely I was before meeting him. I don't easily fall for any guy, and this time I fell so hard. Is it possible that I will meet someone who i will like as much as I like him? It is hard for me to move because I share my kids with my ex. He won't move either because he said that his life is established there.
Most Helpful Guy
You had an intense experience in a short period of time because of the pressure of having your time in Spain limited. Usually, when relationships develop that fast, the driving force is satisfying our own personal needs and not the kind of love that develops when you get to know someone very well. Those kind of relationships usually tend to fail because they are not founded on love. Unfortunately, the feelings that you get from the intense affair feel like love; they feel like the real thing, so it is very easy to confuse the two.
Recognize that this experience taught you that your needs are very close to the surface and your potential for bonding is very much alive. I don't know your history of dating since your divorce but you should use this experience to motivate you to find someone who is more available to you.
I suspect that this is not what you want to hear, but no one will have any magic for how to make a long distance relationship work under these circumstances. You can make plans to visit him again but the next time, it will probably feel different and you will not the same special connection. It is better to savor the memories that you have rather than trying to extend the relationship and having everything get tarnished.1
Most Helpful Girl
I m glad he is honest with you about not wanting to date due to you having childten.
It's not love. Enjoy what you had. It's not easy to move on. If it helps, no contact so u can move on.
I too had an amazing, romantic man for almost two years.
Candles, foot rub, back rub. Romantic dinners, extremely attentiv, domesticated lol, cooked, did dishes, laundry. Just took care of me and my children with every lititle thing. I too worry I won't find another guy as sweet and detailed oriented as him.
He is still calling, I worry that I will be too weak and give in to him. Sigh...0