I've never dated anyone, I have unreasonably high expectations of the girl I want. At least I feel like I do. So I have no experience regarding dating... at all. Do you ever feel like you're settling for less than what you want?
What I want is the girl that is "perfect" or what I find perfect. Not to come across as "I deserve the best girl in the world." I understand that a relationship takes time to build and nurture till it comes to the beautiful thing we see in romantic movies, not just love at first sight. This is probably a stupid question but I guess I'm going to ask it anyway.
Most Helpful Girl
In a way I guess I feel like I'm having to settle. I don't feel like my expectations are too high though, but I feel like I do have to settle for what I want.
I want a guy who is actually going to love me. Not a guy who is just seeing me as a placeholder until he finds the girlfriend he really wants. Unfortunately guys treat me like a play thing. They get to hang out with me, have sex if we are in a relationship and then leave me for someone 'better'.
I'm sick of being a play thing. I want a real relationship. But that's hard for me to come by. Everyone I know is coupled, and I am just over here wishing I had that too.
I feel like I have to settle for a guy who can't give me what I want, because I'm struggling to find it. I've been single for a while now and it sucks. Every guy I talk to seems interested at first, and then I guess he meets someone new and finds them more exciting. I'm a simple person, and I guess that's a bad thing :(1
Most Helpful Guy
To be honest with you, you have to try everything in order for you to know what you can settle for. I also had a picture in my head of how i wanted the perfect woman and i wanted her to be so pretty that people wouldn't judge me for the woman i was dating. And so i fortunately did find a girl that was gorgeous in my eyes and according to my friends and some strangers she was very sexy. Turns out she had the looks but didn't like many of the things i liked doing so we dated for 5 years and we ended it. Later on i went on to dating a gurl who became my best friend after i broke up wit my ex. At times i found her attractive and other times i didn't but she was great so we gave it a shot and it turned out bad because after seein how she kinda didn't have the looks i also noticed her personality wasn't what i wanted as a girlfriend and if i have none of those then its a waste of time. This meant to me that i settled for less because she didn't meet my requirements at all although i gave it a shot and tried it out.
Now i think that my standards changed and i won't settle for anything less meaning i will only date women that are gorgeous looking in my eyes, one that enjoys my hobbies and has some of the same interests i have, and most importantly the chemistry. If we dont have that spark or chemistry that means i can't not and will not date her because our personalities dont match.
So get out there try dating what you think you lile and also go for the ones you dont like and you'll slowly find out what you really wanna settle for. Good luck!0